Honestly, if you can possible swing it, I’d try to give her a week off to self-quarantine and have a frank convo about how she is planning to practice social distancing now that she is back. We are both lawyers w a 2-year old and we do “split shift” when our nanny is occasionally out sick — early bird gets up at 4 to start working, night owl works late, and we divvy up the day as best we can, making liberal use of the TV babysitter. That’s what we’re planning to do if our nanny needs to be out. Sounds like you are trying to take social distancing seriously, as our we, so I feel you.

Also don’t listen to the nonsense person who said you were probably more at risk at the grocery store than your nanny at wedding. Unless the grocery store was mobbed busy (and you were hugging and dancing with the other customers), that’s ridiculous.

Have her come into work as usual.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't get it. Are you worried that your family could infect the nanny or that the nanny could infect your kids from germ exposure at the wedding?

Either way, unless anyone knows that they have been in contact with an infected person, have her come to work. Wash hands and limit close contact.

How do you limit close contact when caring for a 1 year old?

OP here. Exactly. I basically assume if she’s been exposed, we’re all toast - just like my family isn’t limiting exposure among us. She’s basically part of the family. But we’re trying hard to make our home a bubble and I hate the idea of letting in someone who was just in a big group.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't get it. Are you worried that your family could infect the nanny or that the nanny could infect your kids from germ exposure at the wedding?

Either way, unless anyone knows that they have been in contact with an infected person, have her come to work. Wash hands and limit close contact.

How do you limit close contact when caring for a 1 year old?

If someone in your family does end up getting sick, will you blame the nanny? If so, that’s not really fair to her. Something to consider.

OP, I don't get it. Are you worried that your family could infect the nanny or that the nanny could infect your kids from germ exposure at the wedding?

Either way, unless anyone knows that they have been in contact with an infected person, have her come to work. Wash hands and limit close contact.

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Anonymous wrote:OP—Since the nanny left, have you or spouse left your house? Gone grocery shopping? Stopped by Starbucks? Visited a store?

I went grocery shopping, though wiped down my cart and scrubbed my hands when I got home. DH got gas, but packed hand sanitizer for the errand. So not perfect, but we’re basically living in lockdown mode.

You were likely closer to more people in that grocery store than your nanny was at the wedding.

Anonymous wrote:OP—Since the nanny left, have you or spouse left your house? Gone grocery shopping? Stopped by Starbucks? Visited a store?

I went grocery shopping, though wiped down my cart and scrubbed my hands when I got home. DH got gas, but packed hand sanitizer for the errand. So not perfect, but we’re basically living in lockdown mode.

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Anonymous wrote:I think your perspective on “really need to work” is going to change a lot in the coming weeks.

And I say that as someone working on tight deadlines on “really important” projects, with a lot of pressure to perform. DH & I are both starting TW on Monday, with a 4 yo and a toddler. I understand really needing to work, and the childcare challenge.

But as a country, globally, priorities are going to have to change. It is hard now I think because we’re at the beginning of this. But we’ll have to be able to step back from the craziness at work to succeed in social distancing.

What’s TW?

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Anonymous wrote:I think your perspective on “really need to work” is going to change a lot in the coming weeks.

And I say that as someone working on tight deadlines on “really important” projects, with a lot of pressure to perform. DH & I are both starting TW on Monday, with a 4 yo and a toddler. I understand really needing to work, and the childcare challenge.

But as a country, globally, priorities are going to have to change. It is hard now I think because we’re at the beginning of this. But we’ll have to be able to step back from the craziness at work to succeed in social distancing.

What’s TW?

I think your perspective on “really need to work” is going to change a lot in the coming weeks.

And I say that as someone working on tight deadlines on “really important” projects, with a lot of pressure to perform. DH & I are both starting TW on Monday, with a 4 yo and a toddler. I understand really needing to work, and the childcare challenge.

But as a country, globally, priorities are going to have to change. It is hard now I think because we’re at the beginning of this. But we’ll have to be able to step back from the craziness at work to succeed in social distancing.

OP—Since the nanny left, have you or spouse left your house? Gone grocery shopping? Stopped by Starbucks? Visited a store?

Just have your nanny come and take care of your kids. You have all been exposed to each other already.

Your nanny is the big exposure risk here after attending the wedding, so, obviously even if she even has a slight cough, she should stay home.

If you guys aren’t high-risk, I wouldn’t worry about it and have her come to work as usual. If you were immune-compromised, or had an elderly family member living with you, the advice might be different, but in the circumstances you describe, I’d be fine proceeding as normal.

3 kids - 7, 4, 1. As of Monday, all will be home 24/7. DH and I will both be working from home, but will both really need to work. (DH a ton, me a lot.) Our new-as-of-2020, but so far truly awesome, nanny just took a long weekend for a wedding within driving distance. I was hoping she'd cancel, but she didn't, and in fairness, when she left Thursday, things were different than they are tonight. She's due back Tuesday and I'm kind of freaking out about exposing her to our kids (and us). None of us are immuno-compromised or otherwise at high risk. And we don't have a back-up plan. What would DCUM do?