OP, don't grovel. end it.

Sounds awful. Yes, see an attorney asap. If he has suggested seperating/divorcing he most certainly has already contacted one.

Anonymous wrote:I would and don't discuss any divorce related details with your DH. Start gathering info. for the lawyer and make sure you put plan B into place.

Any spouse that threatens divorce is a spouse you can't trust. My ex did that to make me conform to his decisions in life. I secretly put a plan in place to be financially secure before I divorced him.

I will bet your DH does have someone he is seeing or wants to see fyi.

I think it's funny/ironic that you say the person who threatens divorce can't be trusted, but you were the one secretly putting plans in place and initiating the divorce.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see it the same way either. I used to also think couples fight because it was normalized by my wife and a lot of her friends had similar relationships. I never fight with my new wife (maybe argue once a year) and would never stay in a relationship where there were voices raised weekly

No, voices are not raised weekly. I did have a period of extreme anxiety at some point, I went to a doctor for meds, and that helped a lot. I'm also going through perimenopause, so I just don't feel great or like myself generally.

Anonymous wrote:Yall need to TALK to eachother.

I've tried.

Yall need to TALK to eachother.

I am sure the issue is much bigger than one comment. Either you haven't heard what he has been telling you are the issues or he just wants out for whatever reason. Sounds like he is pretty miserable at home and is avoiding it. When not being home is better than being home...that is a sign that there is a lot wrong.

I don’t see it the same way either. I used to also think couples fight because it was normalized by my wife and a lot of her friends had similar relationships. I never fight with my new wife (maybe argue once a year) and would never stay in a relationship where there were voices raised weekly

Anonymous wrote:Yes. He sounds immature (or you are unpleasant and he’s had enough, one of the two.) Either way, it sounds like he’s been done for a long time and this was the excuse he needed to end it. Time to start finalizing it.

There have been times I've been unpleasant. There have been times that he's done things that upset me. My response is couples fight. He doesn't see it the same way.

He wants to get a divorce because you called him a bro?

Hm. You're probably better off.

I would and don't discuss any divorce related details with your DH. Start gathering info. for the lawyer and make sure you put plan B into place.

Any spouse that threatens divorce is a spouse you can't trust. My ex did that to make me conform to his decisions in life. I secretly put a plan in place to be financially secure before I divorced him.

I will bet your DH does have someone he is seeing or wants to see fyi.

Yes. He sounds immature (or you are unpleasant and he’s had enough, one of the two.) Either way, it sounds like he’s been done for a long time and this was the excuse he needed to end it. Time to start finalizing it.

Anonymous wrote:Uh, do you have kids?

no

Uh, do you have kids?

He texted me saying this isn't working for him. Besides that, he hasn't talked to me in a week, slept in the guest room (now traveling for work), won't return my phone calls, "unfriended" me on facebook (lol). The only contact is a few logistical emails about taxes and his possible contact with someone with coronavirus. We've been married for 10 years, together for 15+.

No cheating or anything like that. Without going through the details, I was sarcastic to him and his friend (I called them 'bros' sarcastically). I tried to talk to him after that, he walked away. I apologized later the next day over text (as he wasn't talking to me).

I should just make an appointment with a divorce lawyer, right?