We adopted DD when I was 40. Now I am 47 and she is 7. We are all good and no one assumes I am the Grandma.

I'm 41 with a 5yo and a 1yo. I live on 14th St and work by GW so feel ancient all the time. But I kind of love it. My body is strong, I had kids late without issues and research says I'm gonna live to 99. Kidding of course, no one knows what the future holds but happiness is truly in your perspective. I feel like the luckiest person alive.

OP, I don't think you will be mistaken for Grandma! Especially since you still have little kids, I mean if you're out somewhere with 4 yo and baby, no one will think you're the baby's grandma and the kid's mom.

I have 20 something kids (and a teen) and a 5yo. The only time I have ever been mistaken for grandma was when we were at a restaurant with adult dd and ds and the baby was 2-the waitress thought they were the parents, which is understandable!

Not going to lie though-my 'peers' all pretty much have grown kids and even grandkids. I have some young mom friends and I like their energy. I have one friend who is my age and her dd is same age (she had a long fertility battle) and we relate.

I will indeed be the oldest mom in her K class next fall. That's ok I'm sure some young moms think it's weird. That's ok too! They'll understand in about 20 years LOL.

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I was 25 and in grad school when I had my first in the DC area. People thought I was a teen mother!!!

It always sucks to stand out. Just do what you want and own it!

Ha! I had my first at 30 and bought a house right before. It didn’t seem like a particularly young age but my husband and I were definitely the youngest in the neighborhood by a decade. It just feels awkward to have people be like “you’re SO young!” all the time - especially when objectively you’re not!

Well, I still live here and am always the youngest mom. I have 4 kids. Most of my children's friends parents are 15 to 20 years older than me, but it never stopped us from being friends, and having playdates. Not sure why it's an issue for you, but, age has never come up.

It's also what subculture you are in. In my subculture, the first-time moms are routinely over-educated and over 35, as in "advanced maternal age."

I was 25 and in grad school when I had my first in the DC area. People thought I was a teen mother!!!

It always sucks to stand out. Just do what you want and own it!

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Who cares! Your kids will be happy to have You as their Mom enjoy your new little peanut??

Run your own race, op. I have my own story and my own life to live. I am very happy with my little family, and yes, I’m nearly 20 years older than some of my kids’ friends’ parents. Is what it is.

I was forty for my first and only and all the other moms were about my age. You’re the one in the Midwest feeling insecure. You left your people. If you want another child, have another child and don’t look for friends at playgroup.

What exactly do you want people to say to you here?

Who cares what people think? People in the midwest are boring and have no lives, so they crank out kids in their early-mid 20's.

Who cares? If this is an issue perhaps rethink having another kid.

I had my first 10 years ago at 28 in DC, and was on the younger side of the moms around us. Now, we’re in the Midwest and my 4 year old’s BFF’s mom is 16 years younger than me. We’re leaning towards transferring our last frozen embryo (frozen at 29) in a couple months... if it works, I will be just shy of 40 when baby #4 arrives. I am by far the oldest mom in my son’s preschool, and am shuddering a bit at what this looks like in another 3-4 years when our youngest is doing playgroups and school. Older moms of little ones, how do you feel knowing you’re twice the age of some of the other parents? There aren’t even questions about fertility clinics in my local mom groups - everyone has kids so young! I’m just assuming everyone will think I’m the grandma.