We always present a united front. So we'll go in together and the parent who issued the punishment might say "We've discussed it and decided being grounded for two weeks is too long. Instead you are grounded for one week and have to clean up from dinner each night."

I generally don't undermine any parenting decisions by DH in front of the kids except when it's a serious safety issue.

But if I disagree with something, we do talk about it later.

On the spot, if I think the way DH is handling things is reasonable but not what I would do, I let it go. If I think it’s totally unreasonable and it needs to be addressed immediately, I pull him aside and talk to him and we discuss. So far we have always been able to work something out.

As far as big-picture matters when we are discussing parenting and we aren’t with your kids, if we disagree, we go to google and sort of figure it out.

So sorry. My phone is having issues today; so I’m using voice to text. I thought I had proofread every line. apparently not!

TLDR: we all parent differently, even within one set of parents. Knowing that undermining each other is not Ok, when would you in fact decide to do that?

When you have parenting differences, you can just momentary decisions that one parent makes…

And when you want to back up your partner at all times, not wanting to undermine them…

Do you occasionally feel like it’s best in a situation to question ....

In 100 cases, how many times would you backtrack on the parenting decision made by your partner? What cases would you; what cases would you not?

Potential factors:
Safety of a child child: easy. Yes
What a child wants and whines about: No

Let’s get this out of the way because I want to hear about tougher-to-call situations.