Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 19:15     Subject: Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?
Your sh*tty marriage is not my problem.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 18:47     Subject: Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?
Anonymous wrote:I think I'm about to become a mistress. Last time we met, he asked me repeatedly and I've thought a lot about it since. We've been friends for 6+ years although I've never met his wife. We don't talk about her or his home life at all.

I guess I'm playing out a cost / benefit analysis in my head, and the upside seems to be winning out? Maybe I'm just more European about these things. He's European, actually, so maybe that mentality has rubbed off on me.


How old are you?

Do you want to get married and have kids someday? (Generally speaking - not necessarily with AP)

Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 18:42     Subject: Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?
I think I'm about to become a mistress. Last time we met, he asked me repeatedly and I've thought a lot about it since. We've been friends for 6+ years although I've never met his wife. We don't talk about her or his home life at all.

I guess I'm playing out a cost / benefit analysis in my head, and the upside seems to be winning out? Maybe I'm just more European about these things. He's European, actually, so maybe that mentality has rubbed off on me.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 18:18     Subject: Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?
Anonymous wrote:Like attracts like. Sh!tty people are drawn to equally sh!tty people.


Yep. THIS.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 18:15     Subject: Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?
Like attracts like. Sh!tty people are drawn to equally sh!tty people.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 18:12     Subject: Re:Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?
I was the mistress that became the wife and what they did to them they’ll do to you !
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 17:17     Subject: Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?
I’m in my mid 30s, married, two kids.

When I was single I never thought anyone else’s relationship was any of my business. It’s really as simple as that. I didn’t think about it at all.

The only exception is after I had a threesome with a friend and her S/O he tried to start something on the side and I had to tell her. Which then ruined the friendship so it really just reinforced my belief that I should butt out of other people’s relationships.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 17:14     Subject: Re:Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?
Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you asking how married woman allow their relationship with their husband deteriorate to the point where they have a mistress?


What about marriages that have not deteriorated?
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 17:13     Subject: Re:Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?
Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you asking how married men rationalize having a mistress?


We know men are pigs. We are wondering why women do it.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 17:13     Subject: Re:Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?
Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you asking how married woman allow their relationship with their husband deteriorate to the point where they have a mistress?


It doesn't matter how deteriorated the marriage is. The marriage still exists.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 17:05     Subject: Re:Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?
Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you asking how married woman allow their relationship with their husband deteriorate to the point where they have a mistress?


Here's your answer OP
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 16:42     Subject: Re:Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?
Why aren’t you asking how married woman allow their relationship with their husband deteriorate to the point where they have a mistress?
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 16:41     Subject: Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?
Focus on your husband and nothing else.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 16:36     Subject: Re:Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?
Why aren’t you asking how married men rationalize having a mistress?
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2020 16:35     Subject: Mistresses, how do you rationalize dating a married man?
And if you later later married and had children, do you regret it in any way?