Anonymous wrote:To the posters with kids with ADHD- can they participate in time consuming extra curricular activities? My DS has ADHD and needs lots of time after school to just get the 2-3 hrs of work done.

Sure, but things have to give. My teenager with ADHD rows. That takes a ton of time, and it's part of why DC doesn't have straight A's. But rowing is more important to DC than straight A's, and there's no guarantee DC would have straight A's without rowing. DC also plays a musical instrument. DC also has a very active social life. All of these things are important. DC's not going to get into an Ivy, but even with perfect grades, perfect scores, and high performing extra curriculars getting into an Ivy is a crapshoot. I'd rather encourage my child to find balance and joy in life.

So the real answer is, it depends. If your kid's gunning for academic perfection, that's challenging enough with ADHD without any time consuming extra curriculars. What are your goals for your DC? What are your DC's goals?

Anonymous wrote:To the posters with kids with ADHD- can they participate in time consuming extra curricular activities? My DS has ADHD and needs lots of time after school to just get the 2-3 hrs of work done.

PP with the ADHD son again. He has one choir rehearsal a week and doesn't even practice at home (he does rehearse the last week before the concert). The other extra-curricular is more time-consuming, because it's his native language class and he has homework for it. Not too much in theory, but of course he takes a long time to do it. He should have physical activity, but hates it and "has no time for it". This is an ongoing struggle, because I refuse to sign him up for something when I see his coursework taking up time until 10pm. He needs a lot of sleep (suspected sleep apnea), so going to bed late is really bad for him. We force him to walk the dog, or do some crunches/lift weights at home, but not often enough.

There is no phone or social media involved. He knows not to do that. The biggest screentime waster is research for AP gov. Like many ADHD kids, he thinks he's doing the research, but actually he gets lost in the multiple websites he's supposed to look at, and it takes several hours instead of one hour. It's impossible for him to be more efficient once he's down the rabbit-hole, and it's hard for me to identify, because all I see is that he's on the right websites. Same thing when he's writing an essay for English class, and needs to look up quotes in books. He cannot seem to remember where he's read which story element, and needs to go through entire chapters before finding the right citation. It's infuriating to watch him do that, and eats up hours, literally.

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Anonymous wrote:Parkinson's law is the adage that "work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion".

While it was originally described in relation to businesses, students are particularly susceptible because they
are less likely to have heard about it and even less likely to have the maturity to stick to self-imposed deadlines.

This is true and I’ve talked to my sophomore about this. He doesn’t get it yet. We try and encourage him to work quickly but it’s hard for him.

I also think kids get distracted by their phones. All the time.
Growing up, we had the 'no TV/talking with friends until homework is done' rule. My child doesn't have a phone yet, but when she does, I'm going to try to introduce a similar rule. But kids say they use chats to do homework together. Really?

I'm the poster you are responding to. I agree it's a problem. But almost all of his homework needs to be completed electronically so it's very easy to procrastinate on the computer even if he didn't have his phone with him. We do have him work near us when possible instead of in his room.

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Anonymous wrote:Parkinson's law is the adage that "work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion".

While it was originally described in relation to businesses, students are particularly susceptible because they
are less likely to have heard about it and even less likely to have the maturity to stick to self-imposed deadlines.

This is true and I’ve talked to my sophomore about this. He doesn’t get it yet. We try and encourage him to work quickly but it’s hard for him.

I also think kids get distracted by their phones. All the time.
Growing up, we had the 'no TV/talking with friends until homework is done' rule. My child doesn't have a phone yet, but when she does, I'm going to try to introduce a similar rule. But kids say they use chats to do homework together. Really?

To the posters with kids with ADHD- can they participate in time consuming extra curricular activities? My DS has ADHD and needs lots of time after school to just get the 2-3 hrs of work done.

Anonymous wrote:Parkinson's law is the adage that "work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion".

While it was originally described in relation to businesses, students are particularly susceptible because they
are less likely to have heard about it and even less likely to have the maturity to stick to self-imposed deadlines.

13:46. Believe me, we've explained it all to our son. He has executive functioning coaching to improve his organization and study skills, etc. But he cannot escape his severe ADHD right now. It completely sucks. Since we have ADHD as well, we know it will get better as his brain matures - but it took 10 more years for us. We talk about that too...

Anonymous wrote:Parkinson's law is the adage that "work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion".

While it was originally described in relation to businesses, students are particularly susceptible because they
are less likely to have heard about it and even less likely to have the maturity to stick to self-imposed deadlines.

This is true and I’ve talked to my sophomore about this. He doesn’t get it yet. We try and encourage him to work quickly but it’s hard for him.

Parkinson's law is the adage that "work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion".

While it was originally described in relation to businesses, students are particularly susceptible because they
are less likely to have heard about it and even less likely to have the maturity to stick to self-imposed deadlines.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
My high schooler with inattentive ADHD and slow processing speed takes all the time available: weekdays afternoons/evenings, as well as weekends. 2 APs, two extra-curriculars.

Mine also studies all weekday afternoons/evenings and weekends. Doesn't have ADHD but does have slow processing speed and exec functioning deficits.

Another poster- glad it's not just my kids.

Mine too. Lots of late nights.

Mine probably has a total of 3 hours a day. He might get 30 minutes done during his free period (sometimes).

I don't know. I don't get home from work until 6pm. Then I go to bed around 11pm.

She sometimes does homework in other classes.
She sometimes does work with her friends after school in a cafe or at their houses.
She sometimes stays up later than I do.

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Anonymous wrote:
My high schooler with inattentive ADHD and slow processing speed takes all the time available: weekdays afternoons/evenings, as well as weekends. 2 APs, two extra-curriculars.

Mine also studies all weekday afternoons/evenings and weekends. Doesn't have ADHD but does have slow processing speed and exec functioning deficits.

Another poster- glad it's not just my kids.

Anonymous wrote:
My high schooler with inattentive ADHD and slow processing speed takes all the time available: weekdays afternoons/evenings, as well as weekends. 2 APs, two extra-curriculars.

Mine also studies all weekday afternoons/evenings and weekends. Doesn't have ADHD but does have slow processing speed and exec functioning deficits.

My high schooler with inattentive ADHD and slow processing speed takes all the time available: weekdays afternoons/evenings, as well as weekends. 2 APs, two extra-curriculars.

About 2 hours a day for my 10ths grade DD with 2 AP classes.