Why did you marry and have kids with him? Clock was ticking?

My ex-wife hated me. She just couldn't stand that I was better than her--a better parent, a better housekeeper, a better cook, and a better income-earner. People usually like me, and dislike her.

You need an individual therapist for helping figure out what is going on, what his problem is, and how you can cope/minimize his issues.

He needs a formal diagnosis and treatment for his disorderZ could be adhd or ASD. Plus all the other negative things that go with both of those.

Do some introspection and figure out what you too contributed to the deterioration of your marriage.

It’s time to get out of the relationship if u r not happy or safe. But start looking for a job first.

Anonymous wrote:What age range are your children?

OP?

^ kudos to you for making it work. It’s a difficult situation to be in and then to get out of. I’m thinking not working is a bad choice in general but what to do if a spouse has a great opportunity for advancement? Either way, it sucks for wives (whether you move and stop working or stay back and likely divorce).

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Anonymous wrote:I moved across the country- that’s the exact moment his alcoholism and rage began in earnest. Got him out 14 months after but stuck across country. Don’t do that.

How long has this been going on?
How long have you been looking for work?
What did you make the last time you worked and how long ago was that?

Maybe I can help

that sounds creepy

I didn’t mean it to sound creepy. I was a SAHM with three kids and a high earning abusive husband. I got out and would like to help others, since I’ve actually experienced it.

You need to vent to a therapist lady. Seriously.

Hate is a pretty awful word. Does he hate you too?

What has gone so wrong that there is hate betwen you?

Anonymous wrote:I moved across the country- that’s the exact moment his alcoholism and rage began in earnest. Got him out 14 months after but stuck across country. Don’t do that.

How long has this been going on?
How long have you been looking for work?
What did you make the last time you worked and how long ago was that?

Maybe I can help

that sounds creepy

I moved across the country- that’s the exact moment his alcoholism and rage began in earnest. Got him out 14 months after but stuck across country. Don’t do that.

How long has this been going on?
How long have you been looking for work?
What did you make the last time you worked and how long ago was that?

Maybe I can help

What age range are your children?

Clearly this has been building for a while... why haven’t you gotten a job and left yet?

Theres no way around it. I legit have zero feelings of love twds my husband. I am with him still for one reason only- im currently a SAHM, so I cant divorce him until I have a job again. I became a SAHM because during the time that we were having children I moved from place to place with him for his job (and for his undiagnosed ADHD, which probably fueled his inability to stay in one place). I just cant believe that this is how it would all turn out.