Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny for an extremely wealthy family is a true mansion (one of three mansions they own). They have friends of far lesser income and means over all the time as well as famous people and those who live in ridiculously magnificent homes. My employers go to parties in friend’s apartments as well. They are lovely, warm and open people and have none of the issues or concerns you have, OP.

Quite frankly, you need to acquire true class, OP. You certainly don’t seem to have any.

Well, look at you judging away.

This is a not a question of class, but of understandable anxiety and insecurity.

Yeah right. What insanely wealthy family is actually friends with people who live in apartments? How did these so called friends meet? They don’t travel in the same circles. They aren’t going on the same vacations and they aren’t commiserating with each other on how to make ends meet. There is nothing in common. I don’t believe you.

Not pp but these are the kinds of people who likely socialize with journalists and other kinds of do-gooder people who don't make a lot of money but still bring cachet and can hold an interesting conversation at a dinner party.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny for an extremely wealthy family is a true mansion (one of three mansions they own). They have friends of far lesser income and means over all the time as well as famous people and those who live in ridiculously magnificent homes. My employers go to parties in friend’s apartments as well. They are lovely, warm and open people and have none of the issues or concerns you have, OP.

Quite frankly, you need to acquire true class, OP. You certainly don’t seem to have any.

Well, look at you judging away.

This is a not a question of class, but of understandable anxiety and insecurity.

Yeah right. What insanely wealthy family is actually friends with people who live in apartments? How did these so called friends meet? They don’t travel in the same circles. They aren’t going on the same vacations and they aren’t commiserating with each other on how to make ends meet. There is nothing in common. I don’t believe you.

You do realize that not everyone springs out of the earth, already wealthy, right? Some of us are self made, and yes, we have friends that went to (gasp!) public schools and universities with us, or were room mates, or (insert a million other things). We don’t cast off our friends just because their paths in life haven’t led them in the same direction.

Don’t worry about people judging you. As long as your home is clean and safe, and you’re warm and welcoming, no one will care about the depth of your pockets. And if they do, they’re not worth your time anyway.

We used to live in a nice, but modest home before, and live in a much nicer home now. I’ve noticed people that will always visit us, but never have us over, and most did that when we lived in the small house as well! I just think some people don’t want others in their house, period.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny for an extremely wealthy family is a true mansion (one of three mansions they own). They have friends of far lesser income and means over all the time as well as famous people and those who live in ridiculously magnificent homes. My employers go to parties in friend’s apartments as well. They are lovely, warm and open people and have none of the issues or concerns you have, OP.

Quite frankly, you need to acquire true class, OP. You certainly don’t seem to have any.

Well, look at you judging away.

This is a not a question of class, but of understandable anxiety and insecurity.

Yeah right. What insanely wealthy family is actually friends with people who live in apartments? How did these so called friends meet? They don’t travel in the same circles. They aren’t going on the same vacations and they aren’t commiserating with each other on how to make ends meet. There is nothing in common. I don’t believe you.

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny for an extremely wealthy family is a true mansion (one of three mansions they own). They have friends of far lesser income and means over all the time as well as famous people and those who live in ridiculously magnificent homes. My employers go to parties in friend’s apartments as well. They are lovely, warm and open people and have none of the issues or concerns you have, OP.

Quite frankly, you need to acquire true class, OP. You certainly don’t seem to have any.

Well, look at you judging away.

This is a not a question of class, but of understandable anxiety and insecurity.

And his is PP, but I simply don't judge other people's homes. Whether they are renting a budget apartment or live in a legitimate mansion.

Yes! This is me. My house is fine, not super big or anything. It's a nice neighborhood. Million dollar neighborhood. I just don't feel it's put together enough to have people over so very, very rarely invite wealthy friends over, unless I know they are super down to earth and don't care.

I am like this and I really regret the friendships I have lost as a result.

You just never know, OP. Dh and I are wealthy, and you wouldn't think it from judging our home or our car. But we don't like to spend that way. My girls have been invited to people's homes where the host clearly thinks they're better off than us.

I am not judging your cake. I judge cleanliness. Do you let your cat walk on your kitchen counters? Do you wash your hands when you come in from throwing out the trash? That's what I judge.

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In a nutshell, yes, a lot of people think like you. I think like you! I have actively fought to correct myself over the years, knowing in my heart that parents want their children to have friends and don't mind visiting a significantly more modest home than theirs. My friend living in an apartment still hasn't invited me all these years, even though we have lunch together at my house or go out to eat regularly. I can only correct my behavior, not hers or anyone else's.

Agreed. We don’t ever invite other kids to our house because we are in a townhome and most of the kids at my kids’ schools are in million dollar homes. It sucks and it’s isolating.

I’m a nanny for an extremely wealthy family is a true mansion (one of three mansions they own). They have friends of far lesser income and means over all the time as well as famous people and those who live in ridiculously magnificent homes. My employers go to parties in friend’s apartments as well. They are lovely, warm and open people and have none of the issues or concerns you have, OP.

Quite frankly, you need to acquire true class, OP. You certainly don’t seem to have any.

In a nutshell, yes, a lot of people think like you. I think like you! I have actively fought to correct myself over the years, knowing in my heart that parents want their children to have friends and don't mind visiting a significantly more modest home than theirs. My friend living in an apartment still hasn't invited me all these years, even though we have lunch together at my house or go out to eat regularly. I can only correct my behavior, not hers or anyone else's.

This sound bananas

Yawn... nice brag of your wealth. They don't invite you over as you are annoying, judgmental and careaboutstatus.

We live in a fine home in a nice neighborhood. Our decor is simple and plain, the way we like it. However, our house is very large. Some people say we live in a mansion. It is not. We host often but don’t get invited often to others’ homes. Our friends do often invite us out and when we invite someone over, people always accept.

We recently attended an over the top party for a classmate. Their home looks like a magazine home. Decor and party was like something you see the kardashians would have. Totally over the top.

My kids also recently attended a play date at a very wealthy family’s home. It was a real mansion with millions of dollars of art type house. Family has a plane. Their toys were all top of the line and frankly some stuff I have never even heard of or seen.

So now I feel like I don’t necessarily feel comfortable inviting these people to our home. I would feel my plastic table covers and wegmans sheet cake would be inadequate after that ridiculous over the top party. I wonder if the Uber rich family will judge our pictures on our walls.

And now I wonder if our other friends do not invite us over or host us for similar reasons. I have a few friends that I have known for years. They have never invited me over to their apartment or townhouse. I know they like me as we hang out often and they invite me to meals and outings. I wonder if they don’t invite me over for the same reason I will most likely not invite the super rich crazy art on wall family over to my house.