46 degrees is fine without a coat. It’s not windy with a windchill. It’s not rainy. If the kid is running and playing - she’ll be find from her own body heat soon enough. If she’s just outside for a few minutes - she’ll be fine going in and out of the car.

You don’t get sick from being cold. In fact, depending on the Illness, cold air can help breathing.

This is really nbd. I had on a thin shirt earlier and was fine outside.

Anonymous wrote:2yo DD has been sick on off for the past month. I saw he left the house this morning without her coat. DH thinks it is no big deal since it is 46 degrees. It was 33 degrees when he left the house. Now I’m even more angry that he thinks the high temp of the day is the same as the current temp.

Of course he didn’t forget to take a coat for himself.

Would you be mad if your DH took out a 2yo in the cold without a coat?

If she is wearing a fleece and a hat, and/or she has a blanket in the car, fine. Not ok if she is just in a t-shirt or something.

NBD about the diapers and wipes. They sell them everywhere if he needs some.

Anonymous wrote:I’m just so angry and resentful.

Fixed it for you. And I don't mean it in a nasty way. Too many women walking around angry and resentful mostly about their own choices and looking for ways to diffuse it on other people. These types tend to have awful marriages and are the people who call the cops when they see another mom walk ten feet away from her car with a kid still inside it.

I see this with a lot of my friends. They don't notice it. I do because I'm happy.

OP, I feel you. My DH was like this. I'm like "if you're cold, why wouldn't the kid be cold?"

The only way I got through to DH was by pointing out that some busy body is going to call child protective services on him.

My 2 yr old refuses a coat 80% of the time. It doesnt bother me if he doesnt seem bothered by it. He's in a long sleeve shirt. And he'll wear mittens.

Plus, it isnt like he's he going to freeze walking 90 seconds from the car into a store (where he would shed his coat anyway once inside).

And at the playground or walking around the block, he's walking/skipping/moving/running so, again, not worried.

Kids have a different thermostat than adults.They run warmer and are in constant motion.

Honestly, I don't see what the big deal is.

AND sometimes the temperature isnt as cold as you think it would be. There are plenty of times where 42 degrees feels way more frigid than 33 degrees. It is all about the moisture content/humidity in the air

PS: what does your kid being sick the last few weeks have to do with not wearing a jacket outside? Is your kid feverish and therefore having chills?

I rarely bring a coat for my 2 year old unless we’ll actually be playing/walking outside for awhile or it’s absolutely frigid (like under 20 degrees and windy). Kids shouldn’t wear coats in car seats and the hassle of wrangling a toddler in and out of a coat for the minute walk between home and car and car and destination just isn’t worth it. I get being annoyed by incompetent husbands—I do—but this isn’t the hill I’d choose to die on.

Did he take the kid to the playground with no coat or out to the store with no coat? Not the same thing.

Sounds like your DH is being smart, as little kids shouldn’t be strapped into harnessed car seats with big winter coats on anyway. If you’re spending your whole time indoors with just short walks to and from the car, why do you need a coat anyway?

Cold doesn't make you sick as viruses do that but being cold certainly suppressed your immune system and is also generally unpleasant. And 33 degrees is near freezing. I wouldn't want my 2 year old out in that too without a coat.
And the dh managed to wear a coat himself which is the oddest part of this post.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4726882/#__sec1title

OP, relax. It’s fine. Be happy your husband is with your son. Don’t micromanage him. Enjoy your time by yourself today.

Anonymous wrote:I’m just so angry and resentful that DH is so clueless and knows nothing about taking out our toddler. Im fairly certain he didn’t take any diapers or wipes either.

Going out in the cold without a coat doesn't cause illness.

Putting a kid in car seat with a coat isn't a good idea - adds to much bulk
If they are just running errands and won't be outside long it's no big deal

No diapers / wipes - meh I usually didn't drag those along either at the toddler stage for running errands - we usually had some in the car for emergencies or you can buy them while out if needed.

Deep breath -

Cold does not cause colds. If your child is put into the car seat safely think of it as it was a way to make sure your daughter was safe and that the coat was not going to enable that.

Not ok. He can take off work and stay with her when she's sick then. And of course I also feel bad for the kiddo.
The diapers and wipes thing is frustrating too. Has he never had a blowout on in when he was out? Is he one of those guys who won't change a diaper if it needs it until you're there to do it?

I’m just so angry and resentful that DH is so clueless and knows nothing about taking out our toddler. Im fairly certain he didn’t take any diapers or wipes either.

2yo DD has been sick on off for the past month. I saw he left the house this morning without her coat. DH thinks it is no big deal since it is 46 degrees. It was 33 degrees when he left the house. Now I’m even more angry that he thinks the high temp of the day is the same as the current temp.

Of course he didn’t forget to take a coat for himself.

Would you be mad if your DH took out a 2yo in the cold without a coat?