Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course. This is an opportunity for your kids to start bonding a bit with your husband's family.

Maybe your kids were glued to your side because you sent off vibes that YOU weren't comfortable with your DH's parents.

It's only for a long weekend, anyway. Stop obsessing and just go!

BTW, even if your kids are unhappy for the first hour they will adjust. I am sure in no time at all the grandparents will be entertaining them and acting silly and the kids will have a blast. Maybe the gparents haven't been comfortable around kids if you are hovering around.

Uhh no. I would not leave my 1.5 yo with a stranger. The grandparents are essentially strangers to the 1.5yo.

I remember both sets of grandparents feeling hurt when my daughter turned 1. She wouldn’t even go to them to be held, let alone left for several days. The entire time she was 1-2, she was very attached to me and Dh. Now that she started preschool, she is more independent. She is almost 3 and I would probably leave her now.

I turned 40 when DS was also 1.5. We couldn’t leave the toddler so DH let me go away with my best friend.

Many people we know don’t go away alone as a couple. Some people rarely even do date nights. This is with very young children. I have some mom friends who can’t even do a moms dinner.

This is your own doing and your own anxiety. No reason for OP to follow your awful lead.

Yes, go OP!! Your children will adjust quicker than you imagine. This is a chance for them to build a bond with your in-laws, a great gift to the grandparents and grandchildren. Plus, you need to take care of your marriage. Time alone is so important. I have three kids and my husband and I take a trip without the kids every year. We're doing 5 nights away in February and 3 nights away in April (a conference tag on) this year.

We go on 10+ trips per year with and without kids. We don’t go on couple only trips though. I went on 3 girls trips and DH went on 3 guys trips. Many of our friends turned 40 last year and this year.

Do you have a trusted sitter who could come by for a few hours while your ILs are there to give them a break and check if all is going well?

Yes! Parents need breaks. Grandparents want to know their grandchildren.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course. This is an opportunity for your kids to start bonding a bit with your husband's family.

Maybe your kids were glued to your side because you sent off vibes that YOU weren't comfortable with your DH's parents.

It's only for a long weekend, anyway. Stop obsessing and just go!

BTW, even if your kids are unhappy for the first hour they will adjust. I am sure in no time at all the grandparents will be entertaining them and acting silly and the kids will have a blast. Maybe the gparents haven't been comfortable around kids if you are hovering around.

Uhh no. I would not leave my 1.5 yo with a stranger. The grandparents are essentially strangers to the 1.5yo.

I remember both sets of grandparents feeling hurt when my daughter turned 1. She wouldn’t even go to them to be held, let alone left for several days. The entire time she was 1-2, she was very attached to me and Dh. Now that she started preschool, she is more independent. She is almost 3 and I would probably leave her now.

I turned 40 when DS was also 1.5. We couldn’t leave the toddler so DH let me go away with my best friend.

Many people we know don’t go away alone as a couple. Some people rarely even do date nights. This is with very young children. I have some mom friends who can’t even do a moms dinner.

This is your own doing and your own anxiety. No reason for OP to follow your awful lead.

Yes, go OP!! Your children will adjust quicker than you imagine. This is a chance for them to build a bond with your in-laws, a great gift to the grandparents and grandchildren. Plus, you need to take care of your marriage. Time alone is so important. I have three kids and my husband and I take a trip without the kids every year. We're doing 5 nights away in February and 3 nights away in April (a conference tag on) this year.

Hah GO no ho

Absolutely ho and between then and now do regular FaceTime visits. Have them read a book-even just a few pages each call. I see my granddaughter pretty regularly but if I was worried (as a parent or grandparent) in this situation start the comfort connections now. Maybe have the grandparents talk and have special stuff animals with them for each kid and make them a thing. When they show up-have them bring them. Your kids are little but if its routine and part of their lives, they won't be strangers.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course. This is an opportunity for your kids to start bonding a bit with your husband's family.

Maybe your kids were glued to your side because you sent off vibes that YOU weren't comfortable with your DH's parents.

It's only for a long weekend, anyway. Stop obsessing and just go!

BTW, even if your kids are unhappy for the first hour they will adjust. I am sure in no time at all the grandparents will be entertaining them and acting silly and the kids will have a blast. Maybe the gparents haven't been comfortable around kids if you are hovering around.

Uhh no. I would not leave my 1.5 yo with a stranger. The grandparents are essentially strangers to the 1.5yo.

I remember both sets of grandparents feeling hurt when my daughter turned 1. She wouldn’t even go to them to be held, let alone left for several days. The entire time she was 1-2, she was very attached to me and Dh. Now that she started preschool, she is more independent. She is almost 3 and I would probably leave her now.

I turned 40 when DS was also 1.5. We couldn’t leave the toddler so DH let me go away with my best friend.

Many people we know don’t go away alone as a couple. Some people rarely even do date nights. This is with very young children. I have some mom friends who can’t even do a moms dinner.

This is one of the saddest things I've read on DCUM. How in the world did our culture get to a place where grandparents were so excluded and ostracized? I can't imagine how terribly hurt and heartbroken these grandparents are when they can't even hold their granddaughter. That is something they will take to the grave with them. Has everyone forgotten that these strangers were the ones who raised your spouse??

Guessing you don’t really like your in-laws that much.

I wouldn’t do it. Not unless there was a longer adjustment period with you still home and not unless you completely trust your ILs. It won’t be enjoyable to get away if you don’t.

We see my mom several times a week so we’d both happily leave our kids with her but we see ILs once or twice a year and they aren’t super kid friendly. If the kids were older and had a cousin or something with them to make it fun I would but when one kid is too young to even really communicate their needs in words and neither kid feels comfortable with these older adults whom they really don’t know I’d feel terrible taking off for a weekend.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course. This is an opportunity for your kids to start bonding a bit with your husband's family.

Maybe your kids were glued to your side because you sent off vibes that YOU weren't comfortable with your DH's parents.

It's only for a long weekend, anyway. Stop obsessing and just go!

BTW, even if your kids are unhappy for the first hour they will adjust. I am sure in no time at all the grandparents will be entertaining them and acting silly and the kids will have a blast. Maybe the gparents haven't been comfortable around kids if you are hovering around.

Uhh no. I would not leave my 1.5 yo with a stranger. The grandparents are essentially strangers to the 1.5yo.

I remember both sets of grandparents feeling hurt when my daughter turned 1. She wouldn’t even go to them to be held, let alone left for several days. The entire time she was 1-2, she was very attached to me and Dh. Now that she started preschool, she is more independent. She is almost 3 and I would probably leave her now.

I turned 40 when DS was also 1.5. We couldn’t leave the toddler so DH let me go away with my best friend.

Many people we know don’t go away alone as a couple. Some people rarely even do date nights. This is with very young children. I have some mom friends who can’t even do a moms dinner.

Anonymous wrote:Of course. This is an opportunity for your kids to start bonding a bit with your husband's family.

Maybe your kids were glued to your side because you sent off vibes that YOU weren't comfortable with your DH's parents.

It's only for a long weekend, anyway. Stop obsessing and just go!

I wouldn’t be so quick to blame OP. I would get a familiar babysitter to come over in the evening or afternoon so the grandparents can have a break. Maybe they go out to lunch or dinner on their own to get a breather.

Anonymous wrote:Of course. This is an opportunity for your kids to start bonding a bit with your husband's family.

Maybe your kids were glued to your side because you sent off vibes that YOU weren't comfortable with your DH's parents.

It's only for a long weekend, anyway. Stop obsessing and just go!

BTW, even if your kids are unhappy for the first hour they will adjust. I am sure in no time at all the grandparents will be entertaining them and acting silly and the kids will have a blast. Maybe the gparents haven't been comfortable around kids if you are hovering around.

Of course. This is an opportunity for your kids to start bonding a bit with your husband's family.

Maybe your kids were glued to your side because you sent off vibes that YOU weren't comfortable with your DH's parents.

It's only for a long weekend, anyway. Stop obsessing and just go!

Go!!

Kids are 1.5 and 4. DH wants to go away for his 40th this year but we would need to find someone to watch the kids. Neither of our families live locally and the kids see their grandparents maybe 3 times per year. When we do them it takes time for them to warm up because they just don’t see them often enough to be comfortable off the bat. Over Christmas the younger one was glued to my side and is very wary of new people in general - wouldn’t do anything with MIL without me there.

ILs generously offered to fly in to watch the kids for a long weekend so we could have a few days away. DH thinks we should do it and not worry about the kids, but of course I am worried the kids would be really unhappy. ILs are in their early 70s and FIL is only moderately helpful (like might play with the other one but won’t be changing diapers, giving baths or running around). ILs could come in like on day before we leave but probably not much more than that. I know everyone would be alive when we got back, but not sure anyone would actually enjoy it.

Would you go or no way?