Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 15:42     Subject: Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?
Sorry this is op- I’m just flummoxed. This is my one and only kid and first big birthday and I didn’t know people just RSVPd for siblings without checking. I doubled the pizza and cake but stupid me I had custom favors.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 15:39     Subject: Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes you'll need to either tell people no siblings or order more favors. Once a kid is there it takes a special kind of person to take a cookie out of their hands and say "you weren't invited, were you, Larlo's brother?"


I made a favor basket. I was wondering more along the lines of a parent saying “no that’s Larlo’s” and taking one large gourmet cookie. I wouldn’t personally be policing it.

How is the parent supposed to know they should decline? This is not a good strategy. You will end up with the last kids in the line (whether originally invited or not) without a favor, and it wouldn't be anyone's fault but yours. Since you said yes to the guest, give them a favor. Unless your secret revenge against these parents is to make their children cry and fight on the way home because one got the cookie and the other didn't (which, by the way, is not the fault of the kid who wasn't invited)?


They respond with two kids on the evite- I thought it would be fine and even ordered extras, but then everyone did it!
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 15:37     Subject: Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m stunned by the amount of folks planning to bring siblings to DD’s birthday. I had special favors ordered and don’t have enough. Am I supposed to provide them for siblings too? Do you as the parent let your child take a favor? I think I’ll have to be proactive and order more, right?

If you know about them and said ok, they are now invited siblings. Therefore, you have to treat them like guests. C'mon, OP, you know this. You should have said no siblings if you didn't want them. Since you said ok, treat them equally.


Yeah, this. At first I thought you were talking about siblings you had no idea were coming but just showed up day of. I plan a little for those too, but you have a little more reason to be outraged if they were a complete surprise. If you said they could come, they are now guests.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 15:33     Subject: Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes you'll need to either tell people no siblings or order more favors. Once a kid is there it takes a special kind of person to take a cookie out of their hands and say "you weren't invited, were you, Larlo's brother?"


I made a favor basket. I was wondering more along the lines of a parent saying “no that’s Larlo’s” and taking one large gourmet cookie. I wouldn’t personally be policing it.

How is the parent supposed to know they should decline? This is not a good strategy. You will end up with the last kids in the line (whether originally invited or not) without a favor, and it wouldn't be anyone's fault but yours. Since you said yes to the guest, give them a favor. Unless your secret revenge against these parents is to make their children cry and fight on the way home because one got the cookie and the other didn't (which, by the way, is not the fault of the kid who wasn't invited)?
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 15:30     Subject: Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?
There aren't many years where kids go to parties but are not dropped off. Give people a break. It's hard to juggle multiple kids at a non drop off party. Not everyone has an available spouse or childcare lined up to attend your party. Either hand out favors individually or order more.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 15:30     Subject: Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?
Anonymous wrote:I’m stunned by the amount of folks planning to bring siblings to DD’s birthday. I had special favors ordered and don’t have enough. Am I supposed to provide them for siblings too? Do you as the parent let your child take a favor? I think I’ll have to be proactive and order more, right?

If you know about them and said ok, they are now invited siblings. Therefore, you have to treat them like guests. C'mon, OP, you know this. You should have said no siblings if you didn't want them. Since you said ok, treat them equally.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 15:28     Subject: Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?
Anonymous wrote:Yes, get more favors. Some families invite siblings. We plan it and do.


+1

Yes, get more favors. They don't all have to be the same favors, btw. But if a sibling is coming, then they are a guest. Be a good host.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 15:23     Subject: Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?
Anonymous wrote:Yes you'll need to either tell people no siblings or order more favors. Once a kid is there it takes a special kind of person to take a cookie out of their hands and say "you weren't invited, were you, Larlo's brother?"


I made a favor basket. I was wondering more along the lines of a parent saying “no that’s Larlo’s” and taking one large gourmet cookie. I wouldn’t personally be policing it.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 15:23     Subject: Re:Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?
Order more if you can. If you can't, you can put name tags on each favor for each invited child. It still might happen, but you reduce your chances of a sibling taking one because all the other kids are.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 15:21     Subject: Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?
I've never had the sibling tagalong, and am annoyed when people do. But since you know the siblings are coming, you need to be prepared to give them the same treat (and play time/activities/whatever) as the invited kids.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 15:20     Subject: Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?
Yes, get more favors. Some families invite siblings. We plan it and do.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 15:19     Subject: Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?
Yes you'll need to either tell people no siblings or order more favors. Once a kid is there it takes a special kind of person to take a cookie out of their hands and say "you weren't invited, were you, Larlo's brother?"
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 15:18     Subject: Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?
Or, you hand them out directly to the invited children, and do not offer one to the siblings.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 15:17     Subject: Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?
Favor is a tasty custom cookie btw.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2020 15:16     Subject: Just tell me straight- is the uninvited sibling you are bringing to the party going to take a favor?
I’m stunned by the amount of folks planning to bring siblings to DD’s birthday. I had special favors ordered and don’t have enough. Am I supposed to provide them for siblings too? Do you as the parent let your child take a favor? I think I’ll have to be proactive and order more, right?