If this happened to my daughter, here is what I would do:

1) Pediatrician evaluation, ASAP.
2) Call the police, ASAP.
3) Call and make a report to CPS, ASAP. They will likely not investigate it because the perpetrator is not a family member, but reported it to them will likely get it referred to the Youth Services Division at MPD, who will investigate it.
4) Call Safe Shores and ask them to schedule a forensic interview for your child. I have worked with them before, for children as young as this, and their interviewers are really great at getting to the bottom of what happened in a very compassionate way. It will likely take several hours, but MPD is on site and they will be a partner in the investigation.
5) Depending on the particulars of what happened at school, I would file complaints against whatever adult was in charge and not supervising two preschoolers such that such an abuse could occur at all. This isn't the sort of thing that can happen when a responsible caregiver has their head turned for a minute or two. Someone was not supervising appropriately. If the principal is not taking the issue seriously, I'd file a complaint against him/her as well.
6) When all of that has happened, ask Safe Shores/your pediatrician for a referral for a therapist for your child to work with her on processing the trauma and helping with the avoidance.

I'm so sorry this happened and hope you are able to heal.

Anonymous wrote:
I can't believe I'm writing this, but our 3 year old daughter was penetrated by another kid (or kids) at school. It's hard to fully understand all the details, but we know there was blood and she's having all sorts of avoidance issues ever since. We're meeting with the school and I want to get a sense of what the school is required to do in response. So far the conversation with the school has been one of concern, but also of denial. Can anyone share with me what the school (in DC) is legally required to do in this situation?

OMG This is awful!


Did the school tell you there was blood?

As mandated reporters, school officials should absolutely report this even if they are unclear on the specifics of what happened. If they haven't reported they are irresponsible at best and could be subject to legal action (as school administrator in my state just got jail time for knowing and not reporting).

Anonymous wrote:The school should have called cps (as the perpetrator may be being abused by adults). If you can't confirm that cps was called, you should call.

When my daughter was in preschool, two kids were in the bathroom alone together (in violation of school policy) and one kid pulled the other kids underwear down. The school called CPS, but CPS policy said they could not tell the parents they just had to wait for the investigation. Both families were contacted for an interview by CPS within a few days. So, that's to say that the school may be taking action you aren't aware of, but I was still call CPS yourself and report and call your ped for advice on who you should talk to for expert advice on how to proceed with your kid. So sorry this happened to her.

Op here. It’s been hard to piece together exactly what happened because her memories are all over the place. We connected all the dots yesterday. She is really happy and attached to the teacher/ school and I don’t want to pull her out bc I don’t want her to feel like she is being punished. I’d rather that the boys are moved from the classroom.

Do not take this to the school, always go straight to police

jesus OP, this is crazy. How have you NOT called the police and lawyer? Do not have another conversation with anyone at the school without a lawyer. Get medical notes from her dr. DC is not going to look out for your kid and will give you the run around that confidentiality forbids them from telling you what is happening to the other kid who did this. Do you know the other kid? I know you are in shock but are sending your kid to school every day to sit next to the kid who assualted her? WTF

OP, in your shoes, I'd call Safe Shores before doing anything else: https://www.safeshores.org/

202-671-7233

They should have filled out an incident report and contacted CPS.

The school should have called cps (as the perpetrator may be being abused by adults). If you can't confirm that cps was called, you should call.

Oh- and don't send her back to the school unless the child(ren) that did it are no longer there. That would be traumatizing to her.

Do not talk to the school! Talk to the police- especially since the school is in denial.

I am so sorry that you are dealing with this!

This is a police matter. You also need expert help (as does the child who hurt yours, but that’s not your job).

The police have partners who can help you and your child. Your pediatrician should to. I would also yank your kid out of that school today, at least until you have a counselor’s advice.

Get a lawyer ASAP! I would not be communicating with the school without one.

I’m so sorry this happened to your child.

I can't believe I'm writing this, but our 3 year old daughter was penetrated by another kid (or kids) at school. It's hard to fully understand all the details, but we know there was blood and she's having all sorts of avoidance issues ever since. We're meeting with the school and I want to get a sense of what the school is required to do in response. So far the conversation with the school has been one of concern, but also of denial. Can anyone share with me what the school (in DC) is legally required to do in this situation?