Anonymous wrote:Dear Young Man,
You are presumably old enough to get an engagement ring and get married. You hopefully have a college degree. You hopefully have a plan for your family. You hopefully have dreams and ambitions.

Use that brain of yours and don't crowdsource information. Be your own man. Stand on your own two feet. Develop your own identity.

From,
An Older Man

Refreshing!!

Anonymous wrote:Once upon a time in the not too distant past there was no such things as promposals or proposal photos. People just got engaged. No roll-out. No surprise photos. No elaborate planning. You went to a nice dinner or someone proposed at Christmas and it was a private affair. Then you shared with family. That was it.

I agree. Ours was like that. I do remember when he called his parents to tell them he was getting married his father said "Who's the girl?". Even I thought it was funny!

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t make it a production for the sake of having an Instaworthy moment. Snuggle up next to her one morning and ask her to be your wife. No cold, no crowd, personal

+1 Good luck in making your lasting memory one you both won’t forget.

I would be very surprised if anyone doesn't remember when and where they got engaged. Ours was very non Instagram worthy but I certainly remember it 32 years later. No ring, no getting down on one knee just a huge and wonderful surprise.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear Young Man,
You are presumably old enough to get an engagement ring and get married. You hopefully have a college degree. You hopefully have a plan for your family. You hopefully have dreams and ambitions.

Use that brain of yours and don't crowdsource information. Be your own man. Stand on your own two feet. Develop your own identity.

From,
An Older Man

Why are you even on DCUM if not to crowdsource information about a variety of topics? It isn't immature to look to other people for inspiration. Do you think that people who ask for vacation recommendations and recipie ideas are also failing to develop their own identities?

DP - some folks are followers and some area leaders.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t make it a production for the sake of having an Instaworthy moment. Snuggle up next to her one morning and ask her to be your wife. No cold, no crowd, personal

+1 Good luck in making your lasting memory one you both won’t forget.

Once upon a time in the not too distant past there was no such things as promposals or proposal photos. People just got engaged. No roll-out. No surprise photos. No elaborate planning. You went to a nice dinner or someone proposed at Christmas and it was a private affair. Then you shared with family. That was it.

Anonymous wrote:Dear Young Man,
You are presumably old enough to get an engagement ring and get married. You hopefully have a college degree. You hopefully have a plan for your family. You hopefully have dreams and ambitions.

Use that brain of yours and don't crowdsource information. Be your own man. Stand on your own two feet. Develop your own identity.

From,
An Older Man

Why are you even on DCUM if not to crowdsource information about a variety of topics? It isn't immature to look to other people for inspiration. Do you think that people who ask for vacation recommendations and recipie ideas are also failing to develop their own identities?

Don’t make it a production for the sake of having an Instaworthy moment. Snuggle up next to her one morning and ask her to be your wife. No cold, no crowd, personal

If you don’t already have a place that is significant to you both, then this is not the time together engaged.

Instead of elaborate planning why not just be spontaneous and really surprise her? When my husband proposed we are having dinner at my place on a very ordinary night and in the middle of a conversation about me needing to move to a nicer place he said he had a better idea and he proposed. I almost fell off my chair. I was pretty sure that at some point down the road he would propose but he really surprised me.

Have a warm place to go before and after. My husband kept trying to find the perfect spot but I was freezing in a dress. I knew he was trying to propose and finally couldn’t take it anymore and we went home, where he proposed. Go somewhere warm, suggest a brief walk or photo, propose, and then go back somewhere to warm up!

Dear Young Man,
You are presumably old enough to get an engagement ring and get married. You hopefully have a college degree. You hopefully have a plan for your family. You hopefully have dreams and ambitions.

Use that brain of yours and don't crowdsource information. Be your own man. Stand on your own two feet. Develop your own identity.

From,
An Older Man

My recommendation is don’t do it....

Find a beautiful romantic spot. Find a spot that is significant to both of you, first date, first place you met, beautiful scenery. Take a romantic weekend away and take a beautiful walk in a park or trail. Best Wishes.

I would appreciate recommendations a to propose to my 1yr GF this month.

My preference is outdoors, but unsure about best places to do so in the winter.

Thank you.