Anonymous
Post 01/20/2020 17:27     Subject: Re:Corollary between sexless marriages and one or both partners letting themselves go?
Anonymous wrote:Correlation? Sure. Many possibilities for that, like...

Partner A marries Partner B, expecting a type of relationship that was promised.
Partner B does not behave that way.
Partner A feels trapped, depressed, especially when kids are involved. As a result of feeling so trapped and depressed, Partner A lets him/herself go. Maybe they are struggling to hold themselves above water, and so trips to the beautician are pretty low on the priority list.
As an aside, Partner A also loses all interest in having sex with Partner B, since Partner B does not treat Partner A well.


+1000. Right on target. Well said.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2020 16:58     Subject: Corollary between sexless marriages and one or both partners letting themselves go?
I’m in great shape. 5’11”, 175 pounds and low body fat. I look great for 45. So does my wife. 5’6” and 125 pounds and a dancer. She has no sexual interest in me.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2020 16:48     Subject: Re:Corollary between sexless marriages and one or both partners letting themselves go?
Correlation? Sure. Many possibilities for that, like...

Partner A marries Partner B, expecting a type of relationship that was promised.
Partner B does not behave that way.
Partner A feels trapped, depressed, especially when kids are involved. As a result of feeling so trapped and depressed, Partner A lets him/herself go. Maybe they are struggling to hold themselves above water, and so trips to the beautician are pretty low on the priority list.
As an aside, Partner A also loses all interest in having sex with Partner B, since Partner B does not treat Partner A well.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2020 16:35     Subject: Corollary between sexless marriages and one or both partners letting themselves go?
No. My wife put on 40 pounds but I would have still been totally into her if she’s been into me. Plumbing and sexy is a-OK. Plump and sexless is just sad.

And no, i’m not overweight myself.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2020 11:09     Subject: Corollary between sexless marriages and one or both partners letting themselves go?
Anonymous wrote:You assume one spouse is sexually turned off by the spouse that let themselves go. But it also happens where, with women especially, if she feels unattractive because of weight gain in particular, she might not want sex or to even get naked in front of her spouse.


This is a good observation. Sometimes women can be their own worst critic.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2020 07:44     Subject: Corollary between sexless marriages and one or both partners letting themselves go?
Anonymous wrote:Most of the people I know who have been cheated on were fit and took good care of themselves.

One female could have been a model but she was a bi*ch. Husband who was way less attractive than her, cheated on her.





Forgot to add that I have no idea what our friends sex lives are like.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2020 07:43     Subject: Corollary between sexless marriages and one or both partners letting themselves go?
Most of the people I know who have been cheated on were fit and took good care of themselves.

One female could have been a model but she was a bi*ch. Husband who was way less attractive than her, cheated on her.



Anonymous
Post 01/20/2020 07:27     Subject: Corollary between sexless marriages and one or both partners letting themselves go?
You assume one spouse is sexually turned off by the spouse that let themselves go. But it also happens where, with women especially, if she feels unattractive because of weight gain in particular, she might not want sex or to even get naked in front of her spouse.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2020 07:25     Subject: Corollary between sexless marriages and one or both partners letting themselves go?
It can be a reason, but I doubt it's the most common reason. In the absence of novelty, lots of women just don't have the libido to stay interested.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2020 01:50     Subject: Corollary between sexless marriages and one or both partners letting themselves go?
Depression and lack of sex care might.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2020 22:54     Subject: Re:Corollary between sexless marriages and one or both partners letting themselves go?
so if man cheats on elegant, fir, attractive wife, what was going on?
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2020 22:54     Subject: Corollary between sexless marriages and one or both partners letting themselves go?
There are many reasons for it. A very common one seems to be boredom. Not surprising. Monogamy is NOT natural.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2020 22:52     Subject: Re:Corollary between sexless marriages and one or both partners letting themselves go?
honestly don't know - there is a lot of discussion about sexless marriage on dcum -- is it physical, overworked spouse not around, built up anger, feeling out of shape?
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2020 22:43     Subject: Corollary between sexless marriages and one or both partners letting themselves go?
What do you think?
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2020 22:41     Subject: Corollary between sexless marriages and one or both partners letting themselves go?
Are these things related, or is this an unfair conclusion to draw?