Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mil. Widowed in her 50s, left very well off.
With a man for 10+ years. He is a good companion but does not have anywhere near her assets. She will not marry him because she says there is no reason to and marrying him could give him rights to her assets which she plans to leave to her kids and grandkids.

This will become increasingly common as more women get more and more money. Divorce and alimony reform incoming!

Alimony reform because widows don’t want second husbands to inherit if they die? Ok

You're being naive if you think it applies to just widows and I doubt you would have the same charitable outlook for a widower doing the same thing. Carry on, though.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mil. Widowed in her 50s, left very well off.
With a man for 10+ years. He is a good companion but does not have anywhere near her assets. She will not marry him because she says there is no reason to and marrying him could give him rights to her assets which she plans to leave to her kids and grandkids.

I hope she leaves a lil something for her husband too!

Why?

And he is not her husband.

^right? I don’t get what the poster was referencing about alimony reforms.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mil. Widowed in her 50s, left very well off.
With a man for 10+ years. He is a good companion but does not have anywhere near her assets. She will not marry him because she says there is no reason to and marrying him could give him rights to her assets which she plans to leave to her kids and grandkids.

This will become increasingly common as more women get more and more money. Divorce and alimony reform incoming!

Alimony reform because widows don’t want second husbands to inherit if they die? Ok

I’m a divorced woman and was with my ex for 20 years. My kids are older high school/ college and I’m financially secure. I have a long term boyfriend who I love but have no intention of ever getting married again. The only reason I can possibly see to remarry is for health insurance. And I’ve really grown to like my own space.

I won't marry despite being in a 10+ long live-in relationship, and even though he just recently asked!

My SO has grown kids. I don't have any at all. Although I came along well past the divorce, the kids never warmed up to me. At all.

My SO is quite generous with giving them his money which is his right. As his SO, I don't have a dog in that financial fight. We keep our finances separate. But as a wife I would probably have something to say about it, especially if we joined finances.

He once said he'd go bankrupt (if needed) because his one kid needed medical care because kid didn't have insurance.

Again, that's fine and his prerogative as a parent. But I'm not hitching my financial security and future to that.

My next door neighbor's husband just died. He was 88, she is 85. It turns out they were together for 48 years but never married. Looking back I don't know if she ever used the word husband or always just used his first name. It made things a little more difficult for her at the time of his death. She had to get some extra paperwork and his kids (from before her) had to be on board with a few things. She said so many people were shocked they weren't married. No one really knew, everyone just assumed they were.

I have a number of strait-laced old lady relatives who did this after they became widowed, to keep their assets separate. One of them has nursed 3 husbands through illness and death (no, not arsenic) and has a new "friend".

They are always referred to as "friend" even when they end up living together.

My mom He has little savings and needs to be Medicaid-eligible.

Women are finally realizing what men have realized for decades, lol

Anonymous wrote:My mil. Widowed in her 50s, left very well off.
With a man for 10+ years. He is a good companion but does not have anywhere near her assets. She will not marry him because she says there is no reason to and marrying him could give him rights to her assets which she plans to leave to her kids and grandkids.

This will become increasingly common as more women get more and more money. Divorce and alimony reform incoming!

Anonymous wrote:My mil. Widowed in her 50s, left very well off.
With a man for 10+ years. He is a good companion but does not have anywhere near her assets. She will not marry him because she says there is no reason to and marrying him could give him rights to her assets which she plans to leave to her kids and grandkids.

I hope she leaves a lil something for her husband too!

My mil. Widowed in her 50s, left very well off.
With a man for 10+ years. He is a good companion but does not have anywhere near her assets. She will not marry him because she says there is no reason to and marrying him could give him rights to her assets which she plans to leave to her kids and grandkids.

My best friend does. She comes from an EXTREMELY dysfunctional family where marriage only made it harder to escape abusers and messed people up financially. She's been in a live in relationship for 10+ years and both seem happy. Neither wants kids, so it just didn't seem necessary to either.

Tell me about your situation and reasoning.