OP, you sound very rigid and uptight. You only left 45 min for the date? What if you really hit it off and wanted to keep talking? And the second date choice was walking your dog in the cold or going to one restaurant? If I were him I would decline. If he is willing to put up with this nonsense you should probably marry him.

Is he an untouchable?

Anonymous wrote:Lol it's obvious why you're single

Lol it's obvious why you're single

He doesn't sound like the greatest, but yikes neither do you. There is a reason that you're attracting lower quality guys

Do him a favor and cut him loose.

Anonymous wrote:You are the cause of the problems here.

1. U don't him on the first "date" that you had somewhere else to go.
2. U opted to go for a dog walk with ur neighbor instead of going out with him.
3. U are suggesting walking outside in January (bonkers).

Sounds like you keep changing plans and are neurotic.

this, pluse

4. you seem hung up on his race and job in a way that makes a casual reader of your OP uncomfortable.

why on earth didn't you tell your neighbor to pound sand? That's on you. But, I'd cut him loose for other reasons.

Good work OP. You probably found the one cheap-ass Indian IT technologist in town. Of course he may also have just bought five dinners in a row for five other women, who he never got a second date with, so now he is either broke or jaded.

What?

You don’t really seem to have much free time.

You are the cause of the problems here.

1. U don't him on the first "date" that you had somewhere else to go.
2. U opted to go for a dog walk with ur neighbor instead of going out with him.
3. U are suggesting walking outside in January (bonkers).

Sounds like you keep changing plans and are neurotic.

I agree with the previous poster but for different reasons. You seem to have a ton of expectations that I wouldn’t want to deal with - time limits, going for a walk, etc. You would be way too uptight for me.

Next. You have not even gone on a date yet but encounter too many difficulties. Get a date with someone who has their shit together.

I meet online this Indian IT guy and suggested to meet at a coffee place.
On the day of a “date” I told him I will be waiting at the lobby. 10 minutes into the “date” I texted him I will be leaving shortly in case if he is running late as I have other things scheduled on that day. He texts he is walking around isles in the adjacent store. ???? We finally meet and spend about 25 minutes remaining talking about IT stuff. He came with his “Starbucks” cup I didn’t order since time was scarce (for dates I book 45 min to maintain my schedule.)
He texts me right after the date “you are busy woman”, I suppose it was instead of “nice meeting you, etc.”.
He seems to like to text a lot which I am reluctant to entertain within given “environment”. He asked to meet again sometime soon. He is available on mid week and weekend and overall flexible schedule/telecommute. I suggested I have availability to go for a dog walk with me (set schedule every evening or meet later for dinner at the inexpensive Asian place. He agreed on a walk (windy, cold weather). It didn’t work out since my neighbor asked to join with her dog to discuss her things and I had to re-schedule the “date” for next day. Again offered walk with me or diner. He agreed on walk with me. Later I checked the snow/rain forecast and suggested we go to a restaurant/café. He felt reluctant on eating out idea: “Ohh, ok”.
What was it? Lack of dating experience? Lack of organization? Lack of finance to get your date coffee or take to a cheap café? Is it cultural? How to go about it?