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Anonymous wrote:Told family at around 11-12 weeks after NIPT test. I told a couple of friends. I didn’t make some sort of special announcement. Told boss at 26 weeks. I gave but told anyone at work but it’s obvious I’m pregnant.

I was surprised to find out I was pregnant, I couldn’t believe it and didn’t want to say anything to anyone until I knew everything was going fine.

Typo: 16 weeks not 26*, haven’t told anyone*

Same. No announcement necessary. Just tell people you want to tell. We told parents after 8 week vaginal ultrasound that detected a heartbeat, but only because of prior miscarriages. Second pregnancy, we told parents around 11-12 weeks. I have no idea when I told others about second pregnancy, except work around 14-16 weeks since I popped by then.

Anonymous wrote:With DS1, we waited until 8 weeks to tell our parents, 12 weeks to tell friends and I wanted until around 18 weeks to tell my boss. After he was born, I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks before we told anyone and THAT was really hard because I HAD to tell our parents and it was a very uncomfortable situation for all of us. For DS2, we told our parents as soon as I got a positive test because even if I miscarried again I wanted it to all be out in the open. Told friends at around 10 weeks because it was my older son's bday party and I was showing already. Told boss at 12 weeks because it was fairly obvious.

Oh, and I did the "Facebook" announcements when we found out the sex after 20 weeks for both kids. Then again when they were born.

With DS1, we waited until 8 weeks to tell our parents, 12 weeks to tell friends and I wanted until around 18 weeks to tell my boss. After he was born, I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks before we told anyone and THAT was really hard because I HAD to tell our parents and it was a very uncomfortable situation for all of us. For DS2, we told our parents as soon as I got a positive test because even if I miscarried again I wanted it to all be out in the open. Told friends at around 10 weeks because it was my older son's bday party and I was showing already. Told boss at 12 weeks because it was fairly obvious.

No broader announcement. There is no reason for more distant friends/acquaintances to have hurt feelings over hearing the news from someone else.

No big announcement to broader friends. When people saw me they saw me and figured it out.

Nothing on social media until I had a baby.

Told work as late as I could get away with - about 16 weeks first time and 13 weeks second.

Anonymous wrote:Told family at around 11-12 weeks after NIPT test. I told a couple of friends. I didn’t make some sort of special announcement. Told boss at 26 weeks. I gave but told anyone at work but it’s obvious I’m pregnant.

I was surprised to find out I was pregnant, I couldn’t believe it and didn’t want to say anything to anyone until I knew everything was going fine.

Typo: 16 weeks not 26*, haven’t told anyone*

Told family at around 11-12 weeks after NIPT test. I told a couple of friends. I didn’t make some sort of special announcement. Told boss at 26 weeks. I gave but told anyone at work but it’s obvious I’m pregnant.

I was surprised to find out I was pregnant, I couldn’t believe it and didn’t want to say anything to anyone until I knew everything was going fine.

I didn't do an announcement on social media until after DC was born. Otherwise, I told friends as I saw them during the course of my pregnancy. I have a tiny family (basically just my parents) and told them early (maybe 9 or 10 weeks?). No big announcement at work. I told my supervisor and let everyone else figure it out as I got bigger.

I had infertility and didn't want to risk it.

Also have a history of infertility and RPL. Told family at 15 weeks. Friends at 20. Work at 24.

Just posted a picture of baby on social media after DS arrived. Nothing pregnancy related.

Congratulations!

We dealt with infertility/IVF, too, and I was far too aware of what could go wrong. My announcement on social media consisted of a Facebook post when DD was born. I never posted anything pregnancy-related. Our immediate family and two of my closest friends knew when we did our FET, so we told them once we had confirmed a heartbeat a little over 6 weeks. But these are people who were SUPER supportive, and I would have talked to them had we experienced a loss. I had to notify my supervisor around 12 weeks, due to some issues coordinating travel. Coworkers, extended family, and other friends/acquaintences found out sometime during second trimester...usually just whenever it came up in conversation and became really obvious.

I'm pregnant again (a non-IVF surprise), and, other than our families, I'm just now sharing the news (20 weeks). No plans on social media sharing this time, either.

12 weeks to family (after NIPT results were in).
16 weeks to friends.
22 weeks to work. I'm small and wear blousy tops and blazers anyway, no one suspected a thing.

Boss and work: 20 weeks
Family: 12 weeks

I told my boss around 10 weeks as I needed to let them as I'll be going for appointments more frequently then waited to tell both sides of the family around 18 weeks (I told few friends before that only because I knew they can keep secrets).

Told our family a smidge early at 11 weeks because it was father's day. Called my side on the way and told them to keep it quiet because it was early; told DH's side and FIL had posted to Facebook and told his mom by the time dinner was over, so much for keeping it quiet. There was no big FB announcement or anything (for friends not linked to FIL), just told people as it became obvious and it spread around.

Told work at 22 weeks, when I felt like I was showing and it was starting to feel like it would be weird to tell later.

Related to the question about the timing of telling your boss, I am curious to know when folks announced their pregnancy to their broader friends, acquaintances? Did you do social media? (I am reluctant bc of my history and its not really my style).

We are pregnant after a struggle with infertility. Lots of friends know of our intention to have kids and that we were doing IVF but not a ton details. I will be 13 weeks on Wednesday and we recently got back low-risk NIPT results. My next OB visit is week 15 and the anatomy scan will happen week 19. I had originally thought after the anatomy scan would be good but I am SO tempted to tell people now. I am wondering what other folks did timing-wise?

So far our families and 2 of my very close friends whom I leaned on during IVF know. I feel like we should tell most of our broader friend group at the same time so that ppl dont get hurt feelings if they hear through the grape vine.