Anonymous wrote:Thank you all for being my conscience and convincing me to overcome my snark for the sake of my DS! I texted her back and let her know that he would be coming. I also overcame all of the urges to say something like, “Hi Jane, thanks for inviting DS. It must have been so difficult to throw a party together st the last minute on a Friday night!” ? DS is happy and the birthday boy will end up with a target gift card that I’m regifting... yay for everyone!(?!)

It's that petty lie that would burn me too. "I'm sorry for the last minute invite" would have been enough.

Thank you all for being my conscience and convincing me to overcome my snark for the sake of my DS! I texted her back and let her know that he would be coming. I also overcame all of the urges to say something like, “Hi Jane, thanks for inviting DS. It must have been so difficult to throw a party together st the last minute on a Friday night!” ? DS is happy and the birthday boy will end up with a target gift card that I’m regifting... yay for everyone!(?!)

Yeah I’d go and see about car pooling.
Get an amazon or Best Buy gift card online and be done.

Assume she is being honest.

Can you see about carpooling with someone else to reduce the driving?

Anonymous wrote:Yeah you’re probably right. I’m just annoyed because in know this woman’s husband has my contact information. I received texts from him almost daily during the season he coached DS. Plus, I hate that my kid is the last minute invitation because someone else couldn’t go. I mean, you don’t reserve the trampoline park if you actually dropped the ball. But yeah, I know these are my issues- not DS’s. I’m just cranky and annoyed by it all right now, that’s all!

You sound exactly like I would feel in your shoes. Although she may have had your contact information but not have realized it. At the end of the day I would send my child if they wanted to go to the party. Since it is last minute gift is not necessary but you can always print out an Amazon gift card.

Another in the go column. Had something similar happen with my DD but she was invited a week in advance, when it clearly had been planned well before. I played along with the didn't-have-your-contact-info story and she went and had a great time.

Fwiw, the fact that it is at a trampoline place doesn't mean it's not last minute. A friend held a last-minute birthday party at a similar venue on a Friday evening. It was the only time available. I don't think parties on Friday evenings are that popular, so not surprising.

Always assume the best intent. Life is better that way.

And for a positive spin, they did a good job of keeping your son in the dark when he WASN'T invited so there were no hurt feelings. Goodness knows that comes up frequently. She tried to smooth things by blaming herself rather than someone dropped. Just stick with all the social niceties and go.

Anonymous wrote:Yeah you’re probably right. I’m just annoyed because in know this woman’s husband has my contact information. I received texts from him almost daily during the season he coached DS. Plus, I hate that my kid is the last minute invitation because someone else couldn’t go. I mean, you don’t reserve the trampoline park if you actually dropped the ball. But yeah, I know these are my issues- not DS’s. I’m just cranky and annoyed by it all right now, that’s all!

If you resent the invitation as it is, then don't go. But it's on you to explain to your kid why not.

Yeah you’re probably right. I’m just annoyed because in know this woman’s husband has my contact information. I received texts from him almost daily during the season he coached DS. Plus, I hate that my kid is the last minute invitation because someone else couldn’t go. I mean, you don’t reserve the trampoline park if you actually dropped the ball. But yeah, I know these are my issues- not DS’s. I’m just cranky and annoyed by it all right now, that’s all!

I would make the effort to go if there isn't a real schedule conflict. Your son is excited and the other mother made a good faith effort to include you at the last minute. They aren't going to care that you don't have a gift.

Give the kid $15-20 in cash taped to a home made card. I would go, its Friday night.

Anonymous wrote:If your son wants to go, go. If you don't have time for a gift I am quite sure the mother isn't going to mind/say anything.

Give her the benefit of the doubt. Your son knows now, and it doesn't sound like you have anything else planned for your son tonight.

+1.

If your son wants to go, go. If you don't have time for a gift I am quite sure the mother isn't going to mind/say anything.

Give her the benefit of the doubt. Your son knows now, and it doesn't sound like you have anything else planned for your son tonight.

We started back to school yesterday. Just now, I received a text from my son’s friend’s mother. I don’t know her well but her husband coached my son last year and her son was invited to my DS’s birthday party last April, so she was in my contacts and it popped up as such. She told me that she apologized but she had dropped the ball on her son’s birthday and they were having a party tonight. Would my DS like to attend? It just so happens to be at a trampoline park about 25 minutes away at 6. She would’ve contacted me sooner but she didn’t have my contact information and her son just texted her from school with my number (that he got afterntaliing to my DS about the party no doubt). DS arrived home 20 minutes later and very excited about the party. And yes other kids knew about this party before today.

Would you make the effort to let your kid go? I mean, maybe she’s right about not having my contact information but why didn’t her son get the number yesterday- when they were all back at school? I don’t have a gift for he kid and it’s a pain in the ass to get my kid there. Still, I don’t want to be a grinch in my kids social life. Thoughts?