Anonymous wrote:I did ask her and her response was “how was I supposed to know!” She told me she would write him a note an apologize. Admitting to a mistake is not something my mom really does. My dad was pretty upset with her too. He offered to help my son sort them out and start putting some back together.

Ugh. Your mom needs some coaching. She needs to make the apology in person. Have her write the note but then make her say it in person. A 6 year old needs to hear this from his grandmother. A note will not cut it. And she needs to be the one to help him re-sort the pieces.

Your mom has to separate out all the pieces into their respective sets. Then she’ll understand how much painstaking effort it is on the part of a SIX year old to put these together. Hand her the booklets, pour the legos on the dining room table, and tell her that’s her consequence. Other people can help, but she has to make a sincere effort before you let her off the hook.

I did ask her and her response was “how was I supposed to know!” She told me she would write him a note an apologize. Admitting to a mistake is not something my mom really does. My dad was pretty upset with her too. He offered to help my son sort them out and start putting some back together.

I’d speak to my mother and if she continued this attitude, I’d tell her to leave. No-one comes into our home gets to treat my children this way; not even parents.

I think the scolding would make me more upset than the actual “cleaning” of the Legos. She messed up and her response was to deflect to her grandson.
Not okay.

Oh my goodness! Would it help to talk with mom about apologizing to son for removing his toys and scolding him? Major boundary crossing.

She needs to make this right and sort out all those legos so that he can put them back together. How would she feel or react if he went into her house and ruined something important to her?

What did she say when you asked her why she felt it was necessary to clean somewhere that no one asked her to clean and was out of the way?

If you haven’t asked her, why not?

OP ~ your Mom will get what's coming to her. Your son will remember this forever. You don't really need to do anything.

Op here, definitely not a troll.

I could cry for your DS! poor kid.

Your mom needs to make it right.

So sad! Did your mom ultimately get why this was so upsetting to your son? How did you react?

Sounds like a good learning lesson for you and your son. Forgiveness, accepting family’s faults, moving on, etc.

Or

A troll.

Omg my DS would have been devastated.

My parents are staying this week and this morning I hear my son 6 start crying(he isn’t a crier.) Before anyone woke up she decided to “clean” the playroom” and took apart all of sons LEGO sets and mixed them together. When she saw how upset he was, she scolded him for not cleaning them up. He was mostly upset about the brand new Minecraft legos that he got for Christmas that he has worked for days on. They were on a kid table, so they certainly weren’t in her way, I can’t figure out why she felt the need to take apart already put together legos. Wasn’t like it was a bunch of scattered legos on the floor.