What kind of a hole leaves his sick kids to someone else's care? It's bad enough the kids are sick away from home, but to leave them without their caregiver? That is selfish.

Um, this is going to sound crude, but your husband obviously wants to have dinner and sex without being distracted by coughing kids. Otherwise, there’s no reason to have an overnight to “relax.”

How old are the kids? 4, 7 and 10 very different from 1, 2 and 4.

I wouldn’t do an overnight leaving my in-laws with sick kids unless they insisted and were good with them.

Anonymous wrote:If his parents are okay with it, I would go. There’s always an excuse not to prioritize your marriage.

+1

My mom and MIL would both be able to handle this without any issues. Why not go? If his parents can handle it (and are fine with it) - GO. Since your DH is so pressed about it, it sounds like you guys don't do this often. Don't be a mommy martyr - your kids will be fine with Grandma or Grandpa putting them back to bed.

He’s not “making” you feel like crap. You feel bad because you don’t feel comfortable leaving sick kids. He has a reasonable, but differing, viewpoint that the kids are fine. The way you are framing it is creating a conflict where none need exist.

PPs are right. The kids will be fine if your in-laws are able to handle it. But your marriage won’t be fine if you keep framing him having a differing view from you as an attack.

Go for it. Unless grandparents are very poorly, they can handle a cough.

If his parents are okay with it, I would go. There’s always an excuse not to prioritize your marriage.

Totally depends on his parents and what they are like.

I think it's fine also. Wakes up with coughing does not seem so ill that it requires a parent's presence if loving grandparents are there (assuming they are willing).

How old are the kids?

If 4 year old is the oldest, then no. If 4 year old is hte youngest, then go for it.

My husband’s parents could handle it. But this is very case-by-case.

What about tomorrow (Sat) night?

Ask the in-laws first. If they can handle it, then go enjoy yourselves.

Kids hopefully are on the mend but 2 out of 3 of our kids have been sick for last week (flu and cold symptoms) and we are 11 hours away from our home at in laws. 4 year old still wakes with coughing and we are at dr now getting her checked. He still wants to go away tonightt for overnight but I say no as it’s not fair if they wake up to leave with his parents. I offered to do a few hours away and go out to dinner instead but he says that he can’t relax if one of us will have to drive back. Now he’s making me feel like crap and that I am just lame. Help!