Anonymous
Post 12/27/2019 13:11     Subject: Why do so many on DCUM have in law problems?
Anonymous wrote:It's also that many of us were born in different states and then moved here to DC for work. The majority of inlaw problems arise with travel and visiting. I'm so jealous of people who go over for Christmas dinner for 3 hours, have a merry time and then leave. They get to sleep in their own beds and watch their kids open presents under their own trees. And they get to see inlaws on Christmas Eve and parents on Christmas night. Everyone sees them and no one fights over whose turn it is. No one has to take planes, trains and cars with their kids all sleeping in closets and with time changes.

Local parents help and you also help them. It's much more equal. Non local parents just demand visits, have never babysat, and rarely visit


I get what your saying, but local parents don't necessarily (and are not obligated) to help. And if you do have issues with your in-laws, how lovely to have them live far away and only see them a few times a year! It's all pros and cons.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2019 13:08     Subject: Why do so many on DCUM have in law problems?
I know many people in all areas of the country with in law problems. It’s just what happens when different families are sort of forced together.

If you don’t have in law issues be glad!
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2019 13:07     Subject: Why do so many on DCUM have in law problems?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's unique to DCUM. All my friends in the "nice" midwest have an inlaw problem too. People on here are just blunt.


Here's the thing: I don't know anyone on either the midwest or the DC area who has any real problems with in laws. We don't. Never have. Our kids don't. Never have. Our friends don't. Never have.

It's a DCUM issue.


What on earth? You can’t be serious. I am also from the Midwest, and have lived all over the country. I’d say at least 50 percent of the people I know have ongoing issues with their ILs! I’m in my 40s so in most cases the people I refer to are not newlyweds either.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2019 12:58     Subject: Why do so many on DCUM have in law problems?
Writing it down solidifies the problem. And they embellish. Everyone wants to write a good story --- and be "the good one" in the story. Thus exaggeration.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2019 12:58     Subject: Why do so many on DCUM have in law problems?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My 12yr old DD announced the names of her grandchild. I mentioned that perhaps her child and their spouse might want some input. She was adamant that the names she picked would be the names. I can foresee her SIL/DIL have a MIL problem.

That's funny. My 4 year old DS told me he was going to name his son Elmo. I told him that his spouse might want some input and he had a similar position as your DD.


My DD named her daughter "powatch". I told her I'm glad children aren't able to have babies that they can name.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2019 12:56     Subject: Why do so many on DCUM have in law problems?
It's also that many of us were born in different states and then moved here to DC for work. The majority of inlaw problems arise with travel and visiting. I'm so jealous of people who go over for Christmas dinner for 3 hours, have a merry time and then leave. They get to sleep in their own beds and watch their kids open presents under their own trees. And they get to see inlaws on Christmas Eve and parents on Christmas night. Everyone sees them and no one fights over whose turn it is. No one has to take planes, trains and cars with their kids all sleeping in closets and with time changes.

Local parents help and you also help them. It's much more equal. Non local parents just demand visits, have never babysat, and rarely visit
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2019 12:55     Subject: Why do so many on DCUM have in law problems?
Anonymous wrote:My 12yr old DD announced the names of her grandchild. I mentioned that perhaps her child and their spouse might want some input. She was adamant that the names she picked would be the names. I can foresee her SIL/DIL have a MIL problem.

That's funny. My 4 year old DS told me he was going to name his son Elmo. I told him that his spouse might want some input and he had a similar position as your DD.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2019 12:53     Subject: Why do so many on DCUM have in law problems?
Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's unique to DCUM. All my friends in the "nice" midwest have an inlaw problem too. People on here are just blunt.


+1

Many (most?) people I know IRL have issues with their ILs.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2019 12:53     Subject: Re:Why do so many on DCUM have in law problems?
Anonymous wrote:It’s like yelp reviews. Only those who really have a problem post.


Yea. That might be it. But wow. And some of the complaints are so silly.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2019 12:53     Subject: Why do so many on DCUM have in law problems?
My 12yr old DD announced the names of her grandchild. I mentioned that perhaps her child and their spouse might want some input. She was adamant that the names she picked would be the names. I can foresee her SIL/DIL have a MIL problem.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2019 12:52     Subject: Re:Why do so many on DCUM have in law problems?
It’s like yelp reviews. Only those who really have a problem post.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2019 12:48     Subject: Why do so many on DCUM have in law problems?
Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's unique to DCUM. All my friends in the "nice" midwest have an inlaw problem too. People on here are just blunt.


Here's the thing: I don't know anyone on either the midwest or the DC area who has any real problems with in laws. We don't. Never have. Our kids don't. Never have. Our friends don't. Never have.

It's a DCUM issue.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2019 12:42     Subject: Why do so many on DCUM have in law problems?
Anonymous wrote:It really makes me wonder where the actual problem is coming from. If you catch my drift . . .


Likely the parents of both DH and DW contributed heavily to the lifestyle the complainers are living.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2019 12:40     Subject: Why do so many on DCUM have in law problems?
I don't think it's unique to DCUM. All my friends in the "nice" midwest have an inlaw problem too. People on here are just blunt.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2019 12:34     Subject: Why do so many on DCUM have in law problems?
It really makes me wonder where the actual problem is coming from. If you catch my drift . . .