Anonymous
12/22/2019 14:23
Subject: Settle a debate on modesty?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Up to comfort level. I mean what is your kid going to do in a locker room? It’s pretty normal to see someone of the same sex getting dressed/undressed.
Among peers is different, in my opinion. Any significant age gap = power difference = modesty difference. As a teenage swimmer, did I shower with my peers/dress with my peers in the locker room? Yes. Was the 30something coach a part of that dynamic, even though she often lifted weights, etc., with us? Hell no.
Sounds like you were sexually abused as a child and maybe that is affecting your views on this?
Anonymous
12/22/2019 14:01
Subject: Settle a debate on modesty?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If it hasn't come up by the first, and I mean first, sign of puberty, stop.
That's you. Not everyone.
The OP of this thread literally asked for opinions on this.
That's my opinion. Never said you had to agree with it. Why you feel personally victimized that someone sees the world differently than you do is beyond me.
Post your own thoughts. You don't need to "convert" me to your thinking.
Because, you silly child, you didn't post it as an opinion but as a commandment. We can see who clearly feels "victimized" here by your over-the-top response. Hint: the real victims are your poor kids, growing up with a dogmatic and prurient-minded parent like you.
Anonymous
12/22/2019 13:59
Subject: Settle a debate on modesty?
Anonymous wrote:Up to comfort level. I mean what is your kid going to do in a locker room? It’s pretty normal to see someone of the same sex getting dressed/undressed.
Among peers is different, in my opinion. Any significant age gap = power difference = modesty difference. As a teenage swimmer, did I shower with my peers/dress with my peers in the locker room? Yes. Was the 30something coach a part of that dynamic, even though she often lifted weights, etc., with us? Hell no.
Anonymous
12/22/2019 13:55
Subject: Settle a debate on modesty?
Up to comfort level. I mean what is your kid going to do in a locker room? It’s pretty normal to see someone of the same sex getting dressed/undressed.
Anonymous
12/22/2019 13:37
Subject: Settle a debate on modesty?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If it hasn't come up by the first, and I mean first, sign of puberty, stop.
That's you. Not everyone.
The OP of this thread literally asked for opinions on this.
That's my opinion. Never said you had to agree with it. Why you feel personally victimized that someone sees the world differently than you do is beyond me.
Post your own thoughts. You don't need to "convert" me to your thinking.
Anonymous
12/22/2019 13:35
Subject: Settle a debate on modesty?
My 8 year old son is becoming more modest. He likes privacy in the bath and while getting dressed which we honor. He doesn't seem to notice or mind if we are getting dressed and will chat with us while getting ready
Anonymous
12/22/2019 12:48
Subject: Settle a debate on modesty?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If it hasn't come up by the first, and I mean first, sign of puberty, stop.
That's you. Not everyone.
Agree. Our family is a non modest family. It’s not unusual for me to be walking around half dressed doing various things. Tween DD is currently naked with a detangling hair mask and shower cap on. She’s sitting on a towel watching The Grinch
We all have bodies. No biggie
This is how we are. There was a noticeable difference in body confidence in college between girls that grew up in families like this vs. those who grew up in modest homes.
Anonymous
12/22/2019 12:45
Subject: Settle a debate on modesty?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If it hasn't come up by the first, and I mean first, sign of puberty, stop.
That's you. Not everyone.
Agree. Our family is a non modest family. It’s not unusual for me to be walking around half dressed doing various things. Tween DD is currently naked with a detangling hair mask and shower cap on. She’s sitting on a towel watching The Grinch
We all have bodies. No biggie
Anonymous
12/22/2019 12:35
Subject: Settle a debate on modesty?
Anonymous wrote:If it hasn't come up by the first, and I mean first, sign of puberty, stop.
That's you. Not everyone.
Anonymous
12/22/2019 12:23
Subject: Settle a debate on modesty?
Anonymous wrote:If it hasn't come up by the first, and I mean first, sign of puberty, stop.
I don’t know if I agree with this? My husband and boys don’t seem to have a problem with glimpsing my husband naked if he’s getting out of shower? My 11 year old kid is not modest around us, his parents, but the question was about adults of the same gender as the child.
Anonymous
12/22/2019 12:16
Subject: Settle a debate on modesty?
Nope. It's not about age, it's about comfort level for both parties involved.
Anonymous
12/22/2019 12:15
Subject: Settle a debate on modesty?
If it hasn't come up by the first, and I mean first, sign of puberty, stop.
Anonymous
12/22/2019 12:14
Subject: Settle a debate on modesty?
It is up to both parties and their comfort level. As soon as one person feels uncomfortable, it should stop.
Anonymous
12/22/2019 12:14
Subject: Settle a debate on modesty?
Up to the child.
Anonymous
12/22/2019 12:13
Subject: Settle a debate on modesty?
Is there ever an age where a mother shouldn’t be undressed around her daughter, or a father around his son? Or is it up to the child and their comfort level?