I've been treated like a second class person in Oklahoma, and there are many other places I wouldn't move to. For me, and I guess for you, it's not about having my community around me, more just not getting harassed.

Half black, half Cuban. Lived in this area my whole life. I don’t have a desire to live in most other places since it’s so diverse here, and a smart, wealthy black person isn’t a unicorn.

My now wife, then fiancee, left VA back in 2007 because you could (and can still) be fired for being gay. I was and am a public school teacher and at the time was untenured. I was so, so fearful of being out because I felt I could be fired. We moved to MD in 2007, then to DC in 2008, then back to MD in 2016, and we never looked back. I would not move back to a state where I could be fired for being gay or where I'd be afraid of being out. I would not put my child in the same schools where I grew up - no chance in hell. Right now, in our little MD neighborhood, our child sees kids from all walks of life in his classes, including kids from two dad and two mom families. Having grown up in an extremely rural area, I wouldn't go back. Not a chance.

White mom of biracial kids here. I would not move anywhere where they are the only brown kids in their classes. I'd put my kid in a more diverse school over a top-performing school that's all-white.

I wouldn't want either of my gay siblings to live somewhere overtly discriminatory, but I also know -- and this is true for my kids and my siblings -- discrimination happens everywhere.

I grew up in Appalachia. I have a lot of love for the place but I'd never move back and I'd never encourage my siblings to move back.

Shrugs. I have a pretty large network of gay friends across the country, including in the deep south and small towns. Everyone is happy and content where they live. There's a lot more homosexuality spread across the country and tolerance than you might think outside the DC bubble. It's not the 1950s any more. I don't claim it's perfect but I don't think there's anywhere in the country where a gay person or couple would be living their lives in fear. You'd be surprised at how many unofficial or even official gay bars can exist in rural areas.....

I would be willing to move to any larger city but not a mid sized city in a red area (eg birmingham) or a small red town.

This is reference the Jewish people not living in certain parts of the US because there are not enough of them to have a lot of community support. I didn't want to hijack that thread but was going to post that it is not just a Jewish concern, its a concern for Gay couples and Gay parents too, We have to be careful where we choose to go on vacation and I would not move to a Southern State with my wife and adopted AA DD.