Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 18:38     Subject: Could you be with a man who cheated
Don't many people who are cheated on feel they get a free pass to do the same? That's what I've seen...
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 18:28     Subject: Re:Could you be with a man who cheated
Anonymous wrote:It depends. How long ago did it happen? What were the circumstances? Was it an ongoing affair or a one night stand? I don’t believe “once a cheater always a cheater”. I think people do grow and change. But I would definitely see it as a red flag. I would need more information.


None of that is acceptable. People don't grow or change that much. There is no excuse for cheating.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 18:25     Subject: Re:Could you be with a man who cheated
Hell to the no. Broken moral compass = dealbreaker. I would also not believe the whole being "very sorry" about it.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 18:09     Subject: Re:Could you be with a man who cheated
It depends. How long ago did it happen? What were the circumstances? Was it an ongoing affair or a one night stand? I don’t believe “once a cheater always a cheater”. I think people do grow and change. But I would definitely see it as a red flag. I would need more information.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 18:06     Subject: Could you be with a man who cheated
Nope, never. I am not a jealous person at all because trust and honesty are critical to me.

If I don't have that trust, I have nothing.

Now if you cheated back in 8th grade, I might be a little more forgiving! In an adult relationship after the age of 18 - nope.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 18:05     Subject: Re:Could you be with a man who cheated
Nope. No way. They will cheat if not now then later when he’s stressed/bored/not happy etc. why bother?
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 17:00     Subject: Could you be with a man who cheated
No
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 16:56     Subject: Could you be with a man who cheated
Anonymous wrote:On his wife in the past but was deeply sorry and has learnt from it?


I'd be more worried about someone who uses the word "learnt" unless they are British.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 16:54     Subject: Could you be with a man who cheated
You were his AP though and he swore it would be different with you, right?
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 16:50     Subject: Re:Could you be with a man who cheated
I usually lie at first because people change and why not give them the benefit of the doubt OP. Shame me once...
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 16:48     Subject: Could you be with a man who cheated
Nope. Never.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 16:47     Subject: Could you be with a man who cheated
Absolutely not. I made sure it wasn't my husband who ended his 1st marriage. Once a cheater, always a cheater. If they will do it to the first wife, they will do it to you too.

All cheaters say they are sorry..... right after they get caught.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 16:46     Subject: Could you be with a man who cheated
Anonymous wrote:On his wife in the past but was deeply sorry and has learnt from it?


A third of all the women on here are with a man who was married when they met and started out having an secret affair with.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 16:41     Subject: Re:Could you be with a man who cheated
Only if he did years of individual therapy and had a legit reason why he did it that was not blaming his wife.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 16:32     Subject: Could you be with a man who cheated
On his wife in the past but was deeply sorry and has learnt from it?