Anonymous wrote:

Buy him a gift.

Of course I do. But since I see him a few days after Christmas, I give it to him then. I wish his ex made sure their daughter had something to give him on Xmas - it would be nice for him, and would teach her important lessons about giving and not just receiving.

Why can't you do it and ship it to the house? It would be nice but they are ex's for a reason and she is not willing.

Buy him a gift.

Of course I do. But since I see him a few days after Christmas, I give it to him then. I wish his ex made sure their daughter had something to give him on Xmas - it would be nice for him, and would teach her important lessons about giving and not just receiving.

Anonymous wrote:8 and 10 year olds make gifts for parents... get them some sculpi and some paint or take them to a make your own pottery place.

Wait. She should spend her Saturday at a pottery place for the ex ??

No.

OP let the kids browse amazon, and done.

Anonymous wrote:Geez do the decent, adult thing and get him a gift "from the kids". Or get him nothing. Don't do this passive aggressive "give the kids money knowing they'll buy something that sucks and he won't like" nonsense.

What is wrong with you? I’m not divorced and my kids are grown. Starting in about kindergarten, I gave them money to buy their dad a gift. It’s important for kids to learn to think about what others might like when selecting a gift. Plus, it gives them ownership. Buying the gift for them makes it meaningless.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think this is really nice of you. My brother is divorced with one child and lives across the country, and every Christmas I am so sad that he has nothing to open under the tree. His ex has never had their daughter buy him a present.

Buy him a gift.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think this is really nice of you. My brother is divorced with one child and lives across the country, and every Christmas I am so sad that he has nothing to open under the tree. His ex has never had their daughter buy him a present.

You could talk to your niece about what she wants to get for her dad, order it, and send it to him.

Anonymous wrote:Get him a manscaping kit. Now that he’s going to be hitting the single scene... the 20 somethings he’ll likely be sleeping with are going to appreciate that.

If you go this route you should go ahead and get some future therapy for your kids.

OP, I think this is really nice of you. My brother is divorced with one child and lives across the country, and every Christmas I am so sad that he has nothing to open under the tree. His ex has never had their daughter buy him a present.

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Anonymous wrote:Geez do the decent, adult thing and get him a gift "from the kids". Or get him nothing. Don't do this passive aggressive "give the kids money knowing they'll buy something that sucks and he won't like" nonsense.

8 and 10 is old enough to pick something out.

I remember being that old. Their choice will be lame. OP knows this. She is being petty.

8 and 10 year olds make gifts for parents... get them some sculpi and some paint or take them to a make your own pottery place.

Anonymous wrote:Geez do the decent, adult thing and get him a gift "from the kids". Or get him nothing. Don't do this passive aggressive "give the kids money knowing they'll buy something that sucks and he won't like" nonsense.

8 and 10 is old enough to pick something out.

Get him a manscaping kit. Now that he’s going to be hitting the single scene... the 20 somethings he’ll likely be sleeping with are going to appreciate that.

I think it’s perfectly appropriate for your kids to buy for their dad whether or not you’re getting divorced. Just give them a set amount and drive them to Macy’s or dicks sporting or wherevee. Or let them browse on amazon which is what my kids prefer.

Geez do the decent, adult thing and get him a gift "from the kids". Or get him nothing. Don't do this passive aggressive "give the kids money knowing they'll buy something that sucks and he won't like" nonsense.

I grew up in the area and remember going to the secret shop at Woodies (I think) back in the 80s. Is there still anything similar around? I’d love to give my 8 and 10 year old some money and tell them to shop for their dad. Any ideas of where kids can shop for adults? I want to be as hands off as possible.