Anonymous wrote:If you’re a man go buy yourself a copy of “she comes first“. My husband read it after finding it in a vacation house; we were around 14 years in at that point. His technique in most things was some of the best I’ve ever had, I had quite a bit of experience and I wouldn’t have married him if we didn’t mesh well but after he read that book he turned me into an insatiable nymphomaniac. The fire he lit lasted for five or six years and it has only started to wane now but I think that has more to do with our age than anything else.
If you’re a woman buy a copy of the book and leave it somewhere he can find it.
Another man who bought this, mastered it, my wife was still uninterested but it did help in the world of AP sex.
OP, another vote for the need to repair the physical aspect of marriage and the rest should follow. Sex is the glue.