How do you have this person watching your kids - at best she's hopelessly irresponsible and at worst she's trying to scan you. Seriously?

Also - VENMO.

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Anonymous wrote:No more cash. Cancelable gift cards.

Op here. Is that a thing? Like you can cancel a gift card if she loses it?

I guess I’m reluctant to take on another problem, like if she can lose cash she could just as easily lose a gift card right?

I don’t want her coming to me asking me to reissue the gift card if she loses it

Venmo
PayPal
Direct Deposit

We normally do direct deposit for her regular pay but she asked for cash.

She’s older and low tech so I’m not sure if she has Venmo or PayPal but I can ask if those would work for her. I just don’t want another project-like setting up her venmo for her, etc.

I’ll never hand her cash ever again, that’s for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:No more cash. Cancelable gift cards.

Op here. Is that a thing? Like you can cancel a gift card if she loses it?

I guess I’m reluctant to take on another problem, like if she can lose cash she could just as easily lose a gift card right?

I don’t want her coming to me asking me to reissue the gift card if she loses it

Venmo
PayPal
Direct Deposit

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Anonymous wrote:I think either way, the relationship is irreparable. You called her a liar. It doesn’t even matter whether it’s true.

I think this is true. I don't think I'd want someone watching my kids who I thought was attempting to scam me.

Op here. Yes it’s just a very complicated relationship. My kids love her as a second mother, and it will be hart to extricate ourselves. I’m trying to go for a natural transition as my youngest goes to school/daycare soon.

I’m not sure if she’s trying to scam me. I think it’s possible, but I just can’t tell.

I don’t know why you didn’t just straight up say “Isn’t that exactly what happened last year at the Walmart parking lot?

Op here. I did say that! It must not be clear in my OP. That’s exactly what I said, and I told her that’s why I didn’t believe her-there’s no way she could have made the same mistake twice.

She kind of backtracked, only a tiny bit, and was then saying she doesn’t know what she did and everyone is mad at her for being so irresponsible.

That’s the reason I don’t believe her-such a huge mistake twice in a year?? In the exact same way?

I’m sorry didn’t catch that! I’m very happy you spoke up. I really think you need to move forward because an employee trying to scam their employer is a very difficult thing to come back from especially in such a close and personal relationship that a Manny and family have.

Op here. Am I just being dim? Is that what’s obviously going on and I just don’t want to see it?

The only thing that gives me pause is last time when she trotted out this same story, I never gave her any money, so it didn’t work. Now she’s trying the same game again-just hoping this time it will work?

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Anonymous wrote:I think either way, the relationship is irreparable. You called her a liar. It doesn’t even matter whether it’s true.

I think this is true. I don't think I'd want someone watching my kids who I thought was attempting to scam me.

Op here. Yes it’s just a very complicated relationship. My kids love her as a second mother, and it will be hart to extricate ourselves. I’m trying to go for a natural transition as my youngest goes to school/daycare soon.

I’m not sure if she’s trying to scam me. I think it’s possible, but I just can’t tell.

I don’t know why you didn’t just straight up say “Isn’t that exactly what happened last year at the Walmart parking lot?

Op here. I did say that! It must not be clear in my OP. That’s exactly what I said, and I told her that’s why I didn’t believe her-there’s no way she could have made the same mistake twice.

She kind of backtracked, only a tiny bit, and was then saying she doesn’t know what she did and everyone is mad at her for being so irresponsible.

That’s the reason I don’t believe her-such a huge mistake twice in a year?? In the exact same way?

I’m sorry didn’t catch that! I’m very happy you spoke up. I really think you need to move forward because an employee trying to scam their employer is a very difficult thing to come back from especially in such a close and personal relationship that a Manny and family have.

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Anonymous wrote:I think either way, the relationship is irreparable. You called her a liar. It doesn’t even matter whether it’s true.

I think this is true. I don't think I'd want someone watching my kids who I thought was attempting to scam me.

Op here. Yes it’s just a very complicated relationship. My kids love her as a second mother, and it will be hart to extricate ourselves. I’m trying to go for a natural transition as my youngest goes to school/daycare soon.

I’m not sure if she’s trying to scam me. I think it’s possible, but I just can’t tell.

I don’t know why you didn’t just straight up say “Isn’t that exactly what happened last year at the Walmart parking lot?

Op here. I did say that! It must not be clear in my OP. That’s exactly what I said, and I told her that’s why I didn’t believe her-there’s no way she could have made the same mistake twice.

She kind of backtracked, only a tiny bit, and was then saying she doesn’t know what she did and everyone is mad at her for being so irresponsible.

That’s the reason I don’t believe her-such a huge mistake twice in a year?? In the exact same way?

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Anonymous wrote:I think either way, the relationship is irreparable. You called her a liar. It doesn’t even matter whether it’s true.

I think this is true. I don't think I'd want someone watching my kids who I thought was attempting to scam me.

Op here. Yes it’s just a very complicated relationship. My kids love her as a second mother, and it will be hart to extricate ourselves. I’m trying to go for a natural transition as my youngest goes to school/daycare soon.

I’m not sure if she’s trying to scam me. I think it’s possible, but I just can’t tell.

I don’t know why you didn’t just straight up say “Isn’t that exactly what happened last year at the Walmart parking lot?

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Anonymous wrote:I think either way, the relationship is irreparable. You called her a liar. It doesn’t even matter whether it’s true.

I think this is true. I don't think I'd want someone watching my kids who I thought was attempting to scam me.

Op here. Yes it’s just a very complicated relationship. My kids love her as a second mother, and it will be hart to extricate ourselves. I’m trying to go for a natural transition as my youngest goes to school/daycare soon.

I’m not sure if she’s trying to scam me. I think it’s possible, but I just can’t tell.

Anonymous wrote:No more cash. Cancelable gift cards.

Forget this. Do you really want such an irresponsible nanny taking care if your children???

(Start looking after the holidays.)

Anonymous wrote:I think either way, the relationship is irreparable. You called her a liar. It doesn’t even matter whether it’s true.

I think this is true. I don't think I'd want someone watching my kids who I thought was attempting to scam me.

I think either way, the relationship is irreparable. You called her a liar. It doesn’t even matter whether it’s true.

Anonymous wrote:No more cash. Cancelable gift cards.

Op here. Is that a thing? Like you can cancel a gift card if she loses it?

I guess I’m reluctant to take on another problem, like if she can lose cash she could just as easily lose a gift card right?

I don’t want her coming to me asking me to reissue the gift card if she loses it

I think you might want a new nanny

No more cash. Cancelable gift cards.

I gave the nanny a cash bonus for Christmas last week. Yesterday, she came to me crying saying that she lost the money. She explained that she thinks it fell out of her pocket when she went into a gas station to use the restroom.

I immediately in my bones, felt this is absolutely a lie because she told me EXACTLY the same story when I gave her a different cash bonus a year ago. That time, she claimed she lost the money when she went to the restroom at a wal mart.

This is just infuriating to me, but also so confusing. I guess point blank-I do not believe her. I do not believe she could have lost such a large sum of money twice in the exact same way, approximately one year apart. I actually told her I didn’t believe her, that there’s no way she could have made the same mistake twice, I told her someone in her home must be stealing from her or something.

To be clear, in neither case did she ask for anything, and I did not offer. Also before you start-we pay on the books, but the bonuses are gifts that the nanny asked to be in cash.

I’m trying to figure out what’s going on here. I know I’ll never really know, but wondering what you think. I think it’s either:

1. She’s scamming me, hoping I’ll offer to replace the money
2. She’s extremely stupid and careless (I’ve known her for years and she normally seems very careful and organized)
3. She’s having some kind of mental health crisis
4. Her boyfriend or children stole the money from her but she won’t let herself believe that
5. She has a gambling addiction (she separately mentioned having gone to the casino over the weekend)