Anonymous wrote:Contact police. At minimum make a report of this. Then decide decide regarding pressing charges.

Once you make the report it is often not up to you whether charges are filed, FYI. That’s not to say don’t report it in this case, but know that if you do report it you may not have the option to “not press charges” depending on where you live and your police department and prosecutors office policies.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t want to call the police but what do you want to do? Are you a man or a woman? Are there kids involved?

Good point, sorry for my heteronormative assumption, OP.

What difference does it make if it’s a man or woman?

It affects the level of danger OP is in. If the wife is threatening with a gun, the danger is the same. In a fistfight, the smaller, weaker party is in more danger. That’s just an objective fact that might affect what OP does next.

Not all wives are physically smaller and weaker than their DH.

Police will also respond differently to this type of complaint from a man versus a woman, which could affect which steps to take next.

There’s a lot of factors that will determine how the police respond:
Race of the complainant
Race of the accused
Occupational status of the accused
Socioeconomic class of the couple
Any prior law enforcement contact
Gun ownership by the accused

Gender is just one and sometimes not even the most determinant. My brother serves a lot of warrants.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t want to call the police but what do you want to do? Are you a man or a woman? Are there kids involved?

Good point, sorry for my heteronormative assumption, OP.

What difference does it make if it’s a man or woman?

It affects the level of danger OP is in. If the wife is threatening with a gun, the danger is the same. In a fistfight, the smaller, weaker party is in more danger. That’s just an objective fact that might affect what OP does next.

Not all wives are physically smaller and weaker than their DH.

Police will also respond differently to this type of complaint from a man versus a woman, which could affect which steps to take next.

yes, report it- go to the police and let them know you just want to report it for the record.
let he know when you get home

Contact police. At minimum make a report of this. Then decide decide regarding pressing charges.

What happened?

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t want to call the police but what do you want to do? Are you a man or a woman? Are there kids involved?

Good point, sorry for my heteronormative assumption, OP.

What difference does it make if it’s a man or woman?

It affects the level of danger OP is in. If the wife is threatening with a gun, the danger is the same. In a fistfight, the smaller, weaker party is in more danger. That’s just an objective fact that might affect what OP does next.

Not all wives are physically smaller and weaker than their DH.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t want to call the police but what do you want to do? Are you a man or a woman? Are there kids involved?

Good point, sorry for my heteronormative assumption, OP.

What difference does it make if it’s a man or woman?

It affects the level of danger OP is in. If the wife is threatening with a gun, the danger is the same. In a fistfight, the smaller, weaker party is in more danger. That’s just an objective fact that might affect what OP does next.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t want to call the police but what do you want to do? Are you a man or a woman? Are there kids involved?

Good point, sorry for my heteronormative assumption, OP.

What difference does it make if it’s a man or woman?

You need to call the police.

I made the mistake of thinking that the courts would take me seriously when I presented photos and dates. Turns out they only want police and hospital reports. This is why I have to share custody of my minor child.

Anonymous wrote:You don’t want to call the police but what do you want to do? Are you a man or a woman? Are there kids involved?

Good point, sorry for my heteronormative assumption, OP.

1 in 4 of women and 1 in 7 of men are assaulted by spouce. Take a pic. If first time, work it out. If happens again or it's not the first time - lock her up.

You don’t want to call the police but what do you want to do? Are you a man or a woman? Are there kids involved?

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want to call the police. The only evidence I have is a slight fat lip. Probably not enough to get her escorted off the property.

Take a picture and make note of it somewhere so that you have a recorded pattern of this behavior, if necessary. Cops generally don't care as much when men are physically abused, so it might be an uphill battle.

I don’t want to call the police. The only evidence I have is a slight fat lip. Probably not enough to get her escorted off the property.