Anonymous wrote:OP here. I texted the coach and she said she's tough on her because DD is talented and she expects more from her. And also that sometimes it takes multiple times to tell DD to do something before she complies.

Not sure what to take away from this.

The takeaway is that your daughter doesn’t work as hard as she could and she doesn’t listen. But oh, it’s somehow the coach’s fault.

Pull her.

find another coach - your daughter is a failure in this social situation; or figure it out

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I texted the coach and she said she's tough on her because DD is talented and she expects more from her. And also that sometimes it takes multiple times to tell DD to do something before she complies.

Not sure what to take away from this.

Find another coach. They don't click, and that is fine. It's not fine to torture your daughter with this person.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I texted the coach and she said she's tough on her because DD is talented and she expects more from her. And also that sometimes it takes multiple times to tell DD to do something before she complies.

Not sure what to take away from this.

It means she is not a great coach. If your daughter has talent she needs a better coach.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I texted the coach and she said she's tough on her because DD is talented and she expects more from her. And also that sometimes it takes multiple times to tell DD to do something before she complies.

Not sure what to take away from this.

There may some truth to both statements. Now you need to decide if she's the right fit for your daughter.

If this is the coach’s style and the way your daughter processes information, you have a mismatch.

It’s unlikely the coach is going to change. She needs someone who can coach her so she can actually learn. This isn’t some high stakes competition. She doesn’t need a gruff, demanding coach.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know what I’d do with that response. I think she should hold everyone to the same standards.
I’ve noticed this with my kid’s gymnastics coach , she got a new one at the beginning of the school year and I constantly hear her say my kid’s name to correct something she’s doing when 50% of the other kids are doing the same thing and she doesn’t seem to notice. She’s very shy and won’t say anything back so I think she’s the easiest to pick on. The coach has also started a points system for whoever she feels is working harder on a particular task she’ll give them a point and whoever has the most points at the end of the class gets a reward and it is always the same girl every time since September. These kids are only 5-7 years old too so it is very frustrating for them.

Both of those things are ridiculous. I would speak to the head of the gym. This person may be good at gymnastics but this is the wrong approach with 5-7 yr olds.

I've worked in a tennis club. People switch coaches for their kids all the time. Switch. This coach is going to make your kid hate tennis.

its supposed to be fun. this coach makes it not fun. find a new coach.

I don’t know what I’d do with that response. I think she should hold everyone to the same standards.
I’ve noticed this with my kid’s gymnastics coach , she got a new one at the beginning of the school year and I constantly hear her say my kid’s name to correct something she’s doing when 50% of the other kids are doing the same thing and she doesn’t seem to notice. She’s very shy and won’t say anything back so I think she’s the easiest to pick on. The coach has also started a points system for whoever she feels is working harder on a particular task she’ll give them a point and whoever has the most points at the end of the class gets a reward and it is always the same girl every time since September. These kids are only 5-7 years old too so it is very frustrating for them.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I texted the coach and she said she's tough on her because DD is talented and she expects more from her. And also that sometimes it takes multiple times to tell DD to do something before she complies.

Not sure what to take away from this.

There may some truth to both statements. Now you need to decide if she's the right fit for your daughter.

OP here. I texted the coach and she said she's tough on her because DD is talented and she expects more from her. And also that sometimes it takes multiple times to tell DD to do something before she complies.

Not sure what to take away from this.

Find a new coach that your daughter clicks with

I’d switch coaches. You’re probably not going to be able to get the coach to change feedback even with constructive criticism.

I’ve seen this dynamic in coaches, teachers, and in even preschool teachers—horning in on a particular kid. (Not necessarily my kid either)

If the goal is to learn and enjoy tennis, find someone who can let her do this.

My DD takes tennis lessons with a couple other girls. The coach seems good but I've noticed she is sometimes is picking on DD.

When DD does something wrong she scolds her but when another girl makes the same mistake she doesn't say anything. The other day DD was almost in tears at the end of class because every time she hit successfully was either "too hard" for the other girl to hit back so the coach made her redo it. It's like she doesn't want her to wi

I'm torn. On one hand, I don't want to be one of those helicopter parents that intervene. On the other hand, I want to stand up for DD because I have noticed her treated unfairly.

Also, I do know the coach a bit and she doesn't have good people skills. So I can attribute it to that. Otherwise, she comes across like she doesn't like DD.

What to do?