I don’t think anybody should say something unless it’s a health hazard. My H told me I had gained weight.... I said so what you look 4 month pregnant.

Literally he could not see he was fat. He always described himself at fit because he ran and was the same weight as when we married.

I really don’t care and it did not prevent any positions. It shut him up though.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this thread a test because of the other thread with the chunky DW?

Duh... Of course it is

But most of the men here didn’t take the bait. For what it is worth, I agree — men and women aren’t the same. There’s no need or excuse for a man to be obese. (Barring some real health issue.) Pump iron and eat low carb. Done. He owes it to himself to stay strong and laying that out directly is doing him a great favor.

It’s not as easy for women and it’s a much harder conversation to have, IMO.

Anonymous wrote:Is this thread a test because of the other thread with the chunky DW?

Duh... Of course it is

Is this thread a test because of the other thread with the chunky DW?

Ah the toxic masculinity in this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:Most guys don’t react as sensitively as women. Just tell him he is FAT and needs to lose wt.

+ 1. Men are not like women. Be direct. Use simple words. Don't beat around the bush or use suggestions.

THis applies to everything about men, BTW.

Not true. My husband is overweight and in denial about it. The one time I said something about his weight, he turned it around on me and asked me when was I going to lose weight. I don’t have a problem with my weight. It was his way of trying to silence me but I realized then he didn’t want to deal with the fact that needed to address his weight and overall health.

Read The Power of Habit. It’s very hard to change but there are tricks to overcome it.

I have directly told my DH he is fat, and this just makes him defensive although he can “take it” he just shrugs it off. Telling him I miss his fit chest muscles and arms on the other hand really seems to have an effect on his behavior (works out more).

Anonymous wrote:Tell him you miss being able to do xyz position.

If I was told that, I’d be running 24/7 and cutting back to 1,000 a day!

Tell him you miss being able to do xyz position.

Anonymous wrote:Most guys don’t react as sensitively as women. Just tell him he is FAT and needs to lose wt.

+ 1. Men are not like women. Be direct. Use simple words. Don't beat around the bush or use suggestions.

THis applies to everything about men, BTW.

Anonymous wrote:Most guys don’t react as sensitively as women. Just tell him he is FAT and needs to lose wt.

Agreed and this is coming from a guy. Wife get turned off, doesn’t want to have sex with hubby, she’s out on the prowl... Seen it too many times.

Most guys don’t react as sensitively as women. Just tell him he is FAT and needs to lose wt.

Be honest with him. It’s an easier conversation to have with a guy than a girl.

In all seriousness... he is growing man boobs and a gut and it’s a serious turn off. How do I approach this with him??
FWIW- in shape 5’1” 115lb DW who also works FT.