Anonymous
Post 11/06/2019 19:17     Subject: whats the core issue in your marriage

Anonymous wrote:Manchild puts friends and hobbies first; wife mothers him.


You're the man in question there, right?
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2019 19:14     Subject: whats the core issue in your marriage

That my husband is mentally ill and denies it.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2019 19:05     Subject: whats the core issue in your marriage

No issues here
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2019 19:04     Subject: whats the core issue in your marriage

He has no life outside of his family. Every person is bad including his child's friends. He'd keep the kid at home if he could. every kid is after his kid. Even the ones his kid insists are his friends.
Any hint that something happened at school, he would ask him until he makes us a story he can believe and then say how bad the other kids are.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2019 19:03     Subject: whats the core issue in your marriage

In-law issues. Its better now but they are extremely demanding.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2019 18:50     Subject: whats the core issue in your marriage

Time - fitting in work, childcare, personal time, together time...
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2019 18:47     Subject: whats the core issue in your marriage

Manchild puts friends and hobbies first; wife mothers him.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2019 18:44     Subject: whats the core issue in your marriage

Sex
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2019 18:37     Subject: whats the core issue in your marriage

Anonymous wrote:My libido is lower than his and I feel bad about it. (We have a baby, a preschooler, and a first grader and have had sex four times in the last week including twice last night, but he’d happily be daily.)


I'm sorry, but that's more than enough by just about any measure.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2019 18:33     Subject: whats the core issue in your marriage

My libido is lower than his and I feel bad about it. (We have a baby, a preschooler, and a first grader and have had sex four times in the last week including twice last night, but he’d happily be daily.)
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2019 18:31     Subject: whats the core issue in your marriage

Untreated anxiety and depression
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2019 18:29     Subject: whats the core issue in your marriage

He doesn’t worry about my needs, ever.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2019 18:28     Subject: whats the core issue in your marriage

Introvert/Extrovert

DH wants to be a homebody and be quiet together. I am non stop chit chat and busy! Hanging out quietly together is not my idea of a good time (unless we are having sex while the kids are napping and trying to keep it down).
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2019 18:26     Subject: whats the core issue in your marriage

Who is right
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2019 18:25     Subject: whats the core issue in your marriage

I feel like almost all issues in a given couple all boil down to one root issue that explodes in different ways at different times for that couple.

What's yours?

I'll share mine down thread but don't want to make the way i'm thinking about it that way everyone reacts to this thread.