Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a ton of respect for men who can’t meet me as even a semi equal in terms of what options we have available to us.
So you have contempt for people who aren’t wealthy. Eww.
Not at all. Is it possible that over time I could have contempt for a man who doesn’t have the drive or intelligence I do? Sure. Is it likely that yet another weekend of me paying for everything would turn me off, over time? Yes. Is it likely my “things” intimidate and scare off good men- absolutely. It’s not a one way street.
I would never judge someone for not having family wealth or for not being a high earner. I also am not naive enough to believe that people with wildly different concepts of money/finances/culture will be equally matched. It’s not impossible but it is unlikely.
Anonymous wrote:I’m certainly not famous but I am wealthy (woman). Most men in their 40s who are looking to date are financially hurt by divorce and frankly it’s difficult to find anyone with my options/it’s intimidating inviting a man back to my home etc. I’ve decided to just atop apologizing for it- NO man would- and to rock my own life not worrying about what others do or don’t have- but it’s hard! I don’t have a ton of respect for men who can’t meet me as even a semi equal in terms of what options we have available to us. There’s always the fear that they might not like me but like my money etc. it’s not worse than having no money- not complaining so much as commenting.
Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a ton of respect for men who can’t meet me as even a semi equal in terms of what options we have available to us.
So you have contempt for people who aren’t wealthy. Eww.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m certainly not famous but I am wealthy (woman). Most men in their 40s who are looking to date are financially hurt by divorce and frankly it’s difficult to find anyone with my options/it’s intimidating inviting a man back to my home etc. I’ve decided to just atop apologizing for it- NO man would- and to rock my own life not worrying about what others do or don’t have- but it’s hard! I don’t have a ton of respect for men who can’t meet me as even a semi equal in terms of what options we have available to us. There’s always the fear that they might not like me but like my money etc. it’s not worse than having no money- not complaining so much as commenting.
Yes, there are a lot of insecure men out there but of course I assume you would not be attracted/interested in them anyway. You sound very self-aware and smart. Continue to protect yourself and enjoy your life!
Anonymous wrote:I’m certainly not famous but I am wealthy (woman). Most men in their 40s who are looking to date are financially hurt by divorce and frankly it’s difficult to find anyone with my options/it’s intimidating inviting a man back to my home etc. I’ve decided to just atop apologizing for it- NO man would- and to rock my own life not worrying about what others do or don’t have- but it’s hard! I don’t have a ton of respect for men who can’t meet me as even a semi equal in terms of what options we have available to us. There’s always the fear that they might not like me but like my money etc. it’s not worse than having no money- not complaining so much as commenting.
I don’t have a ton of respect for men who can’t meet me as even a semi equal in terms of what options we have available to us.
Anonymous wrote:For men it is easier, women it is harder. Plus the dating pool is significantly smaller for them.