Anonymous wrote:The only reason to reconnect with him is if you're looking for a friends-with-benefits situation. He will probably continue to see the lawyer girlfriend and you will be a side chick. If that's cool with you and you're not looking for an emotional connection, just let him know your fine with a sex only relationship.

We've been together for years. Like i said I met him when he was making only 25k. I loved him unconditionally and that love and care went both ways. He is a very emotional type though and very clingy. We broke up a few times and he always came back to work things out with me after a month or so of breaking up. He said he wanted to marry me more than a dozen times and now says he sees more of a future with me than the lawyer. He is not a lawyer but he is well off and educated. So am I but I'm poor.

Anonymous wrote:“I’m ethnic.”

What does this even mean?

No to this guy. Work on yourself.

He's white and he said he didn't like white girls yet the lawyer he's dating is white. I'm not white.

Sex with her isn’t as good. He just wants more. Don’t trust him.

“I’m ethnic.”

What does this even mean?

No to this guy. Work on yourself.

The only reason to reconnect with him is if you're looking for a friends-with-benefits situation. He will probably continue to see the lawyer girlfriend and you will be a side chick. If that's cool with you and you're not looking for an emotional connection, just let him know your fine with a sex only relationship.

He sounds controlling. You sound co-dependent. Do what you want here, but I don’t see this ending particularly well for you unless your idea of a good life is being married to a rich cheating lawyer and being treated like crap. Also it is not clear he intends to marry you. If he does it’ll be because he feels he can control you and treat you badly and you will still stay.

Why did the two of you break up in the first place?

Anonymous wrote:Move along fast and get a little therapy to address your self esteem issues. You are much too young to waste your life on men like this. You sound nice . . . Don't stand at a closed door.

Why do you figure I have self esteem issues?

Anonymous wrote:Do you want him having phone sex with another ex when he's together with you? Give him a pass.

I'm his second ex. The other one is married. You are right though he is not easy to trust which is why I hesitate. However I still care about him because we have a history there.

Do you want him having phone sex with another ex when he's together with you? Give him a pass.

Move along fast and get a little therapy to address your self esteem issues. You are much too young to waste your life on men like this. You sound nice . . . Don't stand at a closed door.

Your post doesn't make sense. Which means you probably shouldn't get back together with him.

No.

oh and he doesn't want to talk to me when I go on dates and calls it weird because he says he doesn't like it even though he's dating one person.

So I broke up with an ex about 2 months ago and he called me every other week until I picked up the phone. Well he's dating a female lawyer now whose 30 yrs old but says he wants to try things with me again. We had phone sex the other day and he says that he wants to leave her for me and try things with me again if I'm up for it. I'm ethnic, pretty poor, and not even sure wtf he is coming back after all the drama in our relationship. We definitely have a connection though. He works very long hours and makes a lot of money which I guess is why the lawyer is dating him. I met him when he was making 25k a year. So I have no idea why after so much drama in our relationship which caused us to date on and off for a few years he'd want me to come back to him. Should I give it a go? or move it along?