Anonymous wrote:Did you go on to have a third? Or was that traumatic enough

traumatic? You chose this.

They’re 3 and 1 now. We plan on waiting until 4 and 2 to start again. My youngest was harder and needs more attention whereas my oldest always wanted siblings.

Anonymous wrote:We had two under two and did not have a third. We stopped at two not because it was traumatic (although those first 6 months were rough) but because we just felt our family was done and logistically it made sense.

+1

First two are 19 months apart. We waited until #2 was 3 yrs old to start trying for #3.

My first was 26 months when my second was born, so not quite two under two, but close. In our case, it was definitely traumatic. My oldest just turned 5 and it's finally starting to feel a bit easier, but we are also dealing with the terrible twos. It's actually been fun lately, but for awhile the misery outweighed the fun.

I think it largely depends on the temperaments of your kids. My first is a handful, and my second is more chill. We always say that if #2 had been our first (and thus, our only for awhile), we would have been on easy street.

Traumatic? No way. My boys are now 4 and 2.5; they’re 18 months apart. It’s been far from traumatic. We haven’t added a third yet but we’ve started trying.

Yes it was traumatic and hard. We did have a third but 5 yrs behind middle child. I have a husband that works insane hours and no family help, plus a move to a new city. It took me until they both were at least in preschool to catch a breath.

We didn't have a third, but not because having 2 under 2 was particularly hard. A third would have been doable but I've always wanted to stop at 2 and I refuse to be pregnant again. Though our two are each extremely easy so our "not particularly hard" experience is not the norm.

It was traumatic enough that DH got snipped when #2 turned a year. No number 3 for sure!

We had two under two and did not have a third. We stopped at two not because it was traumatic (although those first 6 months were rough) but because we just felt our family was done and logistically it made sense.

Two under two was really hard. Waited until younger sibling was 2 1/2 to try for another.

First two were 13 mos apart then 24 months till the third. Grad school created a pause but otherwise I’m sure we’d have had a fourth. By the time that ended two years had passed and all were out of diapers a s I never looked back. They’re 13-10 now and it’s been awesome the whole way ??

I had two under two but waited two more years for number three. It was crazy but we survived and now they are all great friends.

Went on for a third. Had three just under four.

But I have been blessed with a great deal of outside help - both paid and family support. I couldn’t have done it alone.

Did you go on to have a third? Or was that traumatic enough