My 3.5 year old DD is a huge pain the ass. Huge. Just giving hugs

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Anonymous wrote:I thought my almost 4 year old was the only one like that. She can be a terror and I am exhausted by her moods and behavior. I hope this is somehow all temporary. When I come from work, when she is not in a good mood, she tells me: " Goodbye" and wants me to leave the house. Do all 4 year old behave like that? We eat healthy, don't go to any fast food places, and try to spend a lot of time with her.

I have three children, now grown, and they never acted like this at any age. Perhaps she is simply a spoiled brat.

Perhaps you lack empathy.

1) OP are you a mom or dad?

2) Who is with your child when you are at work?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought my almost 4 year old was the only one like that. She can be a terror and I am exhausted by her moods and behavior. I hope this is somehow all temporary. When I come from work, when she is not in a good mood, she tells me: " Goodbye" and wants me to leave the house. Do all 4 year old behave like that? We eat healthy, don't go to any fast food places, and try to spend a lot of time with her.

I have three children, now grown, and they never acted like this at any age. Perhaps she is simply a spoiled brat.

You're very lucky. Instead of criticizing the parents for "spoiling" her, why don't you offer your tips for rearing (3) perfect angels?

Anonymous wrote:Also, does she have a diagnosis?

Wow

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought my almost 4 year old was the only one like that. She can be a terror and I am exhausted by her moods and behavior. I hope this is somehow all temporary. When I come from work, when she is not in a good mood, she tells me: " Goodbye" and wants me to leave the house. Do all 4 year old behave like that? We eat healthy, don't go to any fast food places, and try to spend a lot of time with her.

I have three children, now grown, and they never acted like this at any age. Perhaps she is simply a spoiled brat.

You’re so old you’ve probably forgotten. Go back to knitting in your rocker, Grandma.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought my almost 4 year old was the only one like that. She can be a terror and I am exhausted by her moods and behavior. I hope this is somehow all temporary. When I come from work, when she is not in a good mood, she tells me: " Goodbye" and wants me to leave the house. Do all 4 year old behave like that? We eat healthy, don't go to any fast food places, and try to spend a lot of time with her.

I have three children, now grown, and they never acted like this at any age. Perhaps she is simply a spoiled brat.

How is that helpful? Either it’s parenting, and there’s no need to rub it in, or it’s the kid’s biology, and that comment was uncalled for.

Anonymous wrote:I thought my almost 4 year old was the only one like that. She can be a terror and I am exhausted by her moods and behavior. I hope this is somehow all temporary. When I come from work, when she is not in a good mood, she tells me: " Goodbye" and wants me to leave the house. Do all 4 year old behave like that? We eat healthy, don't go to any fast food places, and try to spend a lot of time with her.

I have three children, now grown, and they never acted like this at any age. Perhaps she is simply a spoiled brat.

I thought my almost 4 year old was the only one like that. She can be a terror and I am exhausted by her moods and behavior. I hope this is somehow all temporary. When I come from work, when she is not in a good mood, she tells me: " Goodbye" and wants me to leave the house. Do all 4 year old behave like that? We eat healthy, don't go to any fast food places, and try to spend a lot of time with her.

Divorce and give her to DH

Four year olds are hard but don’t give up - you need to regain control. Establish expectations for behavior and start working towards those behavioral goals. We use time outs, it’s worked well for us. Put in your ear pods if you have to so you can drown out the screaming but make it clear that is not acceptable behavior. We also do a lot of incentives for positive behavior vs punishment and that has worked well. Sticker charts or even something as simple as a gummy bear have helped our child work towards better behavior. We cut out tv and iPads except for very special circumstances not because I am anti screen time (I think some is fine) but for our daughter it led to tantrums and bad behavior so cutting it off helped. Last things we focus on is sleep and healthy eating.

That was a bit of a random brain dump but it’s worked for us, bottom line is you can’t give up. You can change her bahavior and it’ll lead to a much more peaceful life. All of this is assuming their isn’t any underlying issues and she’s just a normal wild kid.

Hugs. 4 year olds can be hard.

Also, does she have a diagnosis?

So sorry to hear that. What have you tried? My kid was a terror too, but I don’t want to suggest something you’ve tried. ( That’s my personal pet peeve.)

I 1000% regret having my 4 year old... she is a terror and doesn’t listen no matter what I do. Screams and cries all the time. My marriage is suffering, my mental health is suffering. I just want to run away.