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Anonymous wrote:Most people don't get married realizing the sex will decrease significantly. Seriously?

Oh please. If they did any research on marriage/divorce they would. Only frauds and idiots can pretend that they did not realize that there was a huge chance(a chance that deserved a prenup) that the sex will decrease.

Who does research on marriage and divorce until they are in a marriage and ready to divorce???

Everyone with a any substance between their ears.

I don't think so.

Anonymous wrote:From the friends I know who have sexless marriages, they did not have a good sex life to begin with, even at the very beginning of their relationship. Has anyone else found this?

We had a great sex life until the kids came, then my wife lost libido and it never came back.

Regarding OP's question, marriage is not a good institution for hot sex. I agree, if that's your goal, stay single. No one goes into marriage thinking the sex will remain scorching, the whole point of a bachelor party is it signifies your last night of fun and freedom. Not that marriage is quite that desolate but people have affairs and divorce for a reason.

From the friends I know who have sexless marriages, they did not have a good sex life to begin with, even at the very beginning of their relationship. Has anyone else found this?

I think some people get married with the false expectation that marriage gives them some legal entitlement to sex at a certain frequency.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is a great institution to raise kids and for stability. It's not like if the sex dries up you are stuck. Cheating and divorcing are options and used often

OP here. Exactly my point. You get married because it is a great institution to raise kids and for stability. Other things are just perks. If sex is more important that the institution, then you should not be getting married.

And I would say I respect spouses who announce point blank that since there is no interest in sex in the marriage, they will look for it elsewhere.

Now the onus is on the withholding spouse to say that having sex elsewhere would destroy the marriage. Now you have them cornered. "If sex is that important in the marriage, why aren't we having any?"

dude, I feel like you post your all the time, the one who insists on declaring a low sex marriage open. Seriously, just go have an affair already, you will feel better about yourself and think more clearly. You're not murdering anyone, it's not illegal.

I am not that poster, Dude.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is a great institution to raise kids and for stability. It's not like if the sex dries up you are stuck. Cheating and divorcing are options and used often

OP here. Exactly my point. You get married because it is a great institution to raise kids and for stability. Other things are just perks. If sex is more important that the institution, then you should not be getting married.

And I would say I respect spouses who announce point blank that since there is no interest in sex in the marriage, they will look for it elsewhere.

Now the onus is on the withholding spouse to say that having sex elsewhere would destroy the marriage. Now you have them cornered. "If sex is that important in the marriage, why aren't we having any?"

dude, I feel like you post your all the time, the one who insists on declaring a low sex marriage open. Seriously, just go have an affair already, you will feel better about yourself and think more clearly. You're not murdering anyone, it's not illegal.

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Anonymous wrote:Most people don't get married realizing the sex will decrease significantly. Seriously?

Oh please. If they did any research on marriage/divorce they would. Only frauds and idiots can pretend that they did not realize that there was a huge chance(a chance that deserved a prenup) that the sex will decrease.

Who does research on marriage and divorce until they are in a marriage and ready to divorce???

Everyone with a any substance between their ears.

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is a great institution to raise kids and for stability. It's not like if the sex dries up you are stuck. Cheating and divorcing are options and used often

OP here. Exactly my point. You get married because it is a great institution to raise kids and for stability. Other things are just perks. If sex is more important that the institution, then you should not be getting married.

And I would say I respect spouses who announce point blank that since there is no interest in sex in the marriage, they will look for it elsewhere.

Now the onus is on the withholding spouse to say that having sex elsewhere would destroy the marriage. Now you have them cornered. "If sex is that important in the marriage, why aren't we having any?"

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Anonymous wrote:Most people don't get married realizing the sex will decrease significantly. Seriously?

Oh please. If they did any research on marriage/divorce they would. Only frauds and idiots can pretend that they did not realize that there was a huge chance(a chance that deserved a prenup) that the sex will decrease.

Who does research on marriage and divorce until they are in a marriage and ready to divorce???

Marriage is a great institution to raise kids and for stability. It's not like if the sex dries up you are stuck. Cheating and divorcing are options and used often

Give me a break OP.

Stop lecturing others - focus on your own problems.

Anonymous wrote:Or make that clear to your spouse( sign a prenup stating the frequency or something).

Yeah negotiating attraction with women always works.

Not to mention, women will genuinely and sincerely believe it when they tell you, pre-marriage, that the sex will stay good and frequent... but that doesn't mean they won't change their minds five years later.

Anonymous wrote:Most people don't get married realizing the sex will decrease significantly. Seriously?

Oh please. If they did any research on marriage/divorce they would. Only frauds and idiots can pretend that they did not realize that there was a huge chance(a chance that deserved a prenup) that the sex will decrease.

Most people don't get married realizing the sex will decrease significantly. Seriously?

I mean with all the stories out here about sexless marriages, why make a huge commitment such as marriage knowing that when sex is done you are done? Wouldn't it be more reasonable to stay single?

It would seem that most who left because sex was not frequent are frauds.

One would argue that anyone who left based on cheating is a fraud as well, but this is not necessarily true. There is usually a lot of lying and sneaking around involved with cheating that it corrodes trust.

If you cannot live without sex, don't get married. Or make that clear to your spouse( sign a prenup stating the frequency or something).