Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 18:14     Subject: Moms secretly want 3+ kids but dads veto more than 2
Anonymous wrote:I see a trend among friends and family. It seems like most women would try for a third child, even if they thought they’d have to make some sacrifices. But the men are unwilling to rock the boat and only agree to two children, MAX. Why do so many self proclaimed feminists, modern women, continue to let the men around them control their reproductive choices?


Are you trying to sound stupid, OP? No one is controlling anyone. If she wants to have a third child, she is more than welcome to divorce, find another partner or sperm donor, and have a third child. And if a husband wants a third child, but his wife doesn’t, he is welcome to divorce her, find another partner and have a third child.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 18:07     Subject: Moms secretly want 3+ kids but dads veto more than 2
Anonymous wrote:there are lots of men who want “big families”


Yeah, some men say that when dating, but after becoming a dad they change their tune. Too lazy for a third.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 17:46     Subject: Moms secretly want 3+ kids but dads veto more than 2
Anonymous wrote:there are lots of men who want “big families”

That the women end up raising.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 17:30     Subject: Moms secretly want 3+ kids but dads veto more than 2
there are lots of men who want “big families”
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 17:15     Subject: Moms secretly want 3+ kids but dads veto more than 2
Anonymous wrote:The no vote is the final vote. Doesn't matter if it's the woman or the man. If both don't agree to another child, the answer must be no, in fairness to the child.


This.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 17:14     Subject: Moms secretly want 3+ kids but dads veto more than 2
Dh wanted way more kids than me.

In my friends group it’s the women with terrible husbands that stopped at 1. They knew their husbands sucked and didn’t want to get divorced by having 2
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 17:12     Subject: Moms secretly want 3+ kids but dads veto more than 2
The no vote is the final vote. Doesn't matter if it's the woman or the man. If both don't agree to another child, the answer must be no, in fairness to the child.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 17:05     Subject: Re:Moms secretly want 3+ kids but dads veto more than 2
Anonymous wrote:It was the reverse for us. I wanted 2 and DH secretly wanted 3.


Similar here. Dh not-so-secretely wanted 4. I’m old, two was as many as we could realistically hope for. I don’t think he understood how much work kids are though. Two is plenty for us.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 17:02     Subject: Re:Moms secretly want 3+ kids but dads veto more than 2
Anonymous wrote:It was the reverse for us. I wanted 2 and DH secretly wanted 3.


Same, though it's no secret. We have two, he wants another. It's absolutely not happening. We're done.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 17:02     Subject: Moms secretly want 3+ kids but dads veto more than 2
We both only wanted two.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 17:01     Subject: Re:Moms secretly want 3+ kids but dads veto more than 2
It was the reverse for us. I wanted 2 and DH secretly wanted 3.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 17:00     Subject: Moms secretly want 3+ kids but dads veto more than 2
Oh FFS. Why would you have child with someone who didn’t want that child? Why would you do that to a kid?

This is not a feminist issue.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 16:59     Subject: Moms secretly want 3+ kids but dads veto more than 2
Most of the women of 3+ kids bitterly complain about their husbands not doing enough even though they need to earn the income. Its much more expensive with three, especially college.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 16:58     Subject: Moms secretly want 3+ kids but dads veto more than 2
Anonymous wrote:I see a trend among friends and family. It seems like most women would try for a third child, even if they thought they’d have to make some sacrifices. But the men are unwilling to rock the boat and only agree to two children, MAX. Why do so many self proclaimed feminists, modern women, continue to let the men around them control their reproductive choices?


Part of being a feminist, modern woman is not forcing your partner to parent more children than he feels he can do well.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 16:53     Subject: Moms secretly want 3+ kids but dads veto more than 2
I see a trend among friends and family. It seems like most women would try for a third child, even if they thought they’d have to make some sacrifices. But the men are unwilling to rock the boat and only agree to two children, MAX. Why do so many self proclaimed feminists, modern women, continue to let the men around them control their reproductive choices?