Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 20:41     Subject: Re:Do you accept the fact that your child will be a washout when they grow up?
My marriage is in the toilet because of this kids.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 16:37     Subject: Re:Do you accept the fact that your child will be a washout when they grow up?
"DH always overdoes more, if I say anything negative."

OP, before you worry about your DC, worry about your marriage.

Your DC will grow up and improve even if it's not enough for you.

On the other hand, your marriage has no reason to improve unless you work on it, soon.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 16:33     Subject: Re:Do you accept the fact that your child will be a washout when they grow up?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:NP poster...how is this OP a narcissist?


Thank you. I'm so sick of people throwing that word around.


And thanks to the poster who clarified it accurately.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 16:31     Subject: Do you accept the fact that your child will be a washout when they grow up?
My mom was like you. Now we barely talk. Your kid knows how you feel.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 16:29     Subject: Re:Do you accept the fact that your child will be a washout when they grow up?
Anonymous wrote:NP poster...how is this OP a narcissist?


Thank you. I'm so sick of people throwing that word around.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 16:28     Subject: Re:Do you accept the fact that your child will be a washout when they grow up?
Seems like a troll thread; if you’re for real, mom, do your kids a favor and choke on your wine tonight.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 16:25     Subject: Do you accept the fact that your child will be a washout when they grow up?
What do you mean by “washout” op? What would “not a washout” look like?
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 16:17     Subject: Do you accept the fact that your child will be a washout when they grow up?
Narcissistic parents feed their own ego through the achievements of their children.

https://www.psychalive.org/the-problem-with-narcissistic-parents/

Is op’s son happy? Is he a good person? Op doesn’t care, because it doesn’t make her look good. It’s about her, not the kids.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 16:12     Subject: Re:Do you accept the fact that your child will be a washout when they grow up?
I am 15:50 above with the late blooming son. This poem is always a good reminder to me:

https://poets.org/poem/children-1
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 15:58     Subject: Do you accept the fact that your child will be a washout when they grow up?
I can tell that he won’t be an MD or a lawyer. But he can still have a great life and do wonderful things.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 15:56     Subject: Re:Do you accept the fact that your child will be a washout when they grow up?
NP poster...how is this OP a narcissist?
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 15:54     Subject: Do you accept the fact that your child will be a washout when they grow up?
Op you are a textbook narcissist. Get some help. Thank god your kids have unconditional love from their dad.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 15:50     Subject: Re:Do you accept the fact that your child will be a washout when they grow up?
Some children mature later than others. Please give your children the time and space to grow. I have been surprised by the growth my DS has shown in later high school and as a freshman in college.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 15:48     Subject: Do you accept the fact that your child will be a washout when they grow up?
What?
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2019 15:43     Subject: Do you accept the fact that your child will be a washout when they grow up?
Not a child with a learning disability or on a spectrum... my DS is 12, still young, but He shows no motivation or effort with anything- he’s neither driven by money, his father indulges him. DD, is no better,. I told my husband he’s not doing his kids any favors “letting things go” or by spoiling them. DH always overdoes more, if I say anything negative. I don’t bother fighting it anymore. My kids better hope I die before him...