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Anonymous wrote:I was only with a few men before my husband and he knew a couple of them and he didn’t think much of them nor frankly did I so there wasn’t much to talk about. What he doesn’t know is that one of them was incredibly well endowed but he definitely doesn’t need to know that because he is of average size. Too bad the other guy wasn’t very good in bed despite his ample size - what a waste.

Lol! I did a spit take when I read this. How big was the guy? Like huge?

I don’t know the actual size but I was afraid it wouldn’t fit in me which he didn’t really seem to care about. My average size husband is wonderful.

I’ve told him as little as possible and he’s told me almost nothing and I’m happy to keep it that way. When he met me I was a mature young adult and prior to that I wasn’t and I will leave it at that. I have a 12 year old daughter and I pray that she doesn’t take after her mother between the ages of 18-21.

Anonymous wrote:There is a certain sex act (trying to keep it clean here) that I told DH I’ve never done and have no interest in. I did it with the last bf I had before him.

Same with me as I’m pretty sure I know what you are talking about. It was one time and I hated it and I hated myself for letting it happen.

There is a certain sex act (trying to keep it clean here) that I told DH I’ve never done and have no interest in. I did it with the last bf I had before him.

He doesn’t know how abusive my high school boyfriend was and how damaged I was when I broke up with him in college.

Anonymous wrote:During a wine infused lunch yesterday with three GF’s this subject came up. They all had pretty hilarious stories about a sexual adventure, though nothing bizarre, and I had nothing to offer other than how I lost my virginity which was darn boring and not until I was 22. My college years were misspent sexually compared to my friends.

No. I would say just the opposite. You should be proud of yourself.

Anonymous wrote:I was only with a few men before my husband and he knew a couple of them and he didn’t think much of them nor frankly did I so there wasn’t much to talk about. What he doesn’t know is that one of them was incredibly well endowed but he definitely doesn’t need to know that because he is of average size. Too bad the other guy wasn’t very good in bed despite his ample size - what a waste.

Lol! I did a spit take when I read this. How big was the guy? Like huge?

Sadly, not much to tell! Until I met my husband it was all pretty basic. Happily, over the last 27 years it’s been a pretty wild ride with him so all of the fun stuff he participated in.

I was only with a few men before my husband and he knew a couple of them and he didn’t think much of them nor frankly did I so there wasn’t much to talk about. What he doesn’t know is that one of them was incredibly well endowed but he definitely doesn’t need to know that because he is of average size. Too bad the other guy wasn’t very good in bed despite his ample size - what a waste.

I haven’t told my husband much specific information about my past sex life. He knows when and how I lost my virginity as well as generally that I was fairly promiscuous in my earlier years. He knows that the sexual things I’m not interested in are things I’ve done before and didn’t enjoy.

He does not know specifically about the light kink involved in several of my previous relationships. He does not know that I used to sleep with women. Not because either of those things would be a problem for him - it just hasn’t come up in the context of our relationship.

- together 10 years

My husband has never really asked me about my sex life pre him and vice versa and I’m sure he assumes it was pretty tame and it was except for one time I had a ONS on a late night train ride in Europe. I’m not sure why I did it but it was fun at the time and he was a Danish hunk.

I used to not tell men anything about my past because most guys can’t handle it and basically want a virgin. Then I realized jealousy wasn’t a trait I wanted in a partner, and if they had a problem with my past, they weren’t someone I wanted anyway.

What does your story have to do with telling a spouse? It’s more so about how our there you were before your spouse. Anyways, my husband doesn’t know much and vice versa. He doesn’t know about being paid for sex, 3some, abortion, etc. what would it matter to him?

My husband didn't want to know but pretty much everything. He assumes I had 1 boyfriend.

During a wine infused lunch yesterday with three GF’s this subject came up. They all had pretty hilarious stories about a sexual adventure, though nothing bizarre, and I had nothing to offer other than how I lost my virginity which was darn boring and not until I was 22. My college years were misspent sexually compared to my friends.