Anonymous
Post 08/14/2019 07:33     Subject: People still do this?
Anonymous wrote:Ugh. This happened to me after a emergency hysterectomy. I was super swollen. Only 30. No kids. [/quot

Damn. People suck.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2019 07:29     Subject: People still do this?
Ugh. This happened to me after a emergency hysterectomy. I was super swollen. Only 30. No kids.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2019 07:27     Subject: People still do this?
Context is that it was a stranger. I had to told anyone. The point is stop saying things that are potentially hurtful because you never know what’s going on. I appreciate those who’ve been in this situation and your thoughts.

Impact over intent.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2019 03:29     Subject: People still do this?
Yeah it’s hard to tell what’s going on. If you were pregnant and told people and she knew that way she could not have known you miscarried and thought the pregnancy was progressing.
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2019 23:42     Subject: People still do this?
Anonymous wrote:To her defense, the woman didn't know you miscarried, right? I assume she thought the pregnancy was going well especially since you never said otherwise?

Trying to figure out the context.

The woman didn't intentionally say it out of spite or purposely upset your child. It was just casual small talk.


Also trying to figure out context. OP, was this someone you knew who knew that you were pregnant and didn’t realize your DD didn’t know? Or was this a stranger who just assumed you were pregnant based on your appearance? The first is a faux pas but I think forgivable. The second just defies words?
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2019 23:34     Subject: People still do this?
To her defense, the woman didn't know you miscarried, right? I assume she thought the pregnancy was going well especially since you never said otherwise?

Trying to figure out the context.

The woman didn't intentionally say it out of spite or purposely upset your child. It was just casual small talk.
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2019 22:25     Subject: People still do this?
I confess I did this once. I felt terrible. It’s no excuse, but the woman was unmistakably wearing a maternity shirt. The old school kind with an empire waist and a bow in the back. But it was still my fault and I learned my lesson.
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2019 22:20     Subject: People still do this?
People are ridiculous. I’m so sorry.
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2019 22:20     Subject: People still do this?
Anonymous wrote:A woman went up to my DD and said—oh you are going to have a baby brother or sister soon!” I told her no and I recently miscarried. Now DD is crying because she thought there was going to be a baby. People. Bite.yoyr. Tongue



People are awful. I'm so sorry. Have a glass of wine. Or three. And some chocolate.
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2019 22:14     Subject: People still do this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I had just had a failed IVF and a coworker I was not at all close to laid her hands on my stomach and said "There's a baby in there isn't there?" with a knowing look. I said "No, no there's not." She persisted, "Are you sure?" I had to reply while removing her hands from my person "very very sure." Then I went into my office and cried.


Jesus C


Oh wait - PP again. I forgot - I then went and taught a class to a bunch of 8th graders and THEN went into my office and cried.
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2019 22:13     Subject: People still do this?
Anonymous wrote:I had just had a failed IVF and a coworker I was not at all close to laid her hands on my stomach and said "There's a baby in there isn't there?" with a knowing look. I said "No, no there's not." She persisted, "Are you sure?" I had to reply while removing her hands from my person "very very sure." Then I went into my office and cried.


Jesus C
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2019 22:11     Subject: People still do this?
I had just had a failed IVF and a coworker I was not at all close to laid her hands on my stomach and said "There's a baby in there isn't there?" with a knowing look. I said "No, no there's not." She persisted, "Are you sure?" I had to reply while removing her hands from my person "very very sure." Then I went into my office and cried.
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2019 22:09     Subject: People still do this?
Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP. Hugs.


Thank you. Also this was at a play ground—just to give some context. I am just floored
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2019 22:06     Subject: People still do this?
I'm sorry, OP. Hugs.
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2019 22:05     Subject: People still do this?
A woman went up to my DD and said—oh you are going to have a baby brother or sister soon!” I told her no and I recently miscarried. Now DD is crying because she thought there was going to be a baby. People. Bite.yoyr. Tongue