Anonymous
08/12/2019 11:52
Subject: Sad about former nanny
Oh, be quite, 11:48. OP, the things you are describing are pretty reasonable things to ask of a nanny. Stimulating activities like talking and reading and taking the baby here and there are normal and reasonable. The puree thing is more individual, but if you want a nanny to do that then you should discuss that at the point of hiring. You may want to find a new nanny who is more proactive. On the plus side, your younger child is getting all the benefits from having a sibling that your first baby didn't have.
Anonymous
08/12/2019 11:48
Subject: Sad about former nanny
Anonymous wrote:Our former nanny was great. She was with my son from 2 months to three-years and then he started preschool/ daycare. She still sees him every week at her own expense and went on to another job she loves.
I had another baby last spring and we hired a new nanny for the baby. Our new nanny is lovely and loves our baby but she just isn’t as good or educated as our former nanny. She doesn’t read to the baby or talk to her much. She doesn’t seek out story times or free concerts. She doesn’t make purées for her (our former nanny used to make purées loaded with herbs and spices).
Our new nanny is reliable, kind and (again) loves our baby. But I just can’t help thinking that our second child is not getting the stimulation our older child did.
How do I get over this comparison?
You let the first nanny go so live with the consequences. Why can't you make purees and do the things the other nanny did? Too lazy?
Anonymous
08/11/2019 19:22
Subject: Sad about former nanny
Why cannot you do those things? Not hard to make purees.
Anonymous
08/11/2019 19:06
Subject: Sad about former nanny
Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- Please ask your nanny to read books and make purées. That’s literally her job! She should be doing everything your former nanny did, that’s just basic childcare.
+1. Your new nanny should be doing what your old nanny did. Reading and making homemade food for the baby are part of the job.
Anonymous
08/11/2019 11:22
Subject: Sad about former nanny
Anonymous wrote:Why can’t you hire the former nanny again?
You can ask, but if she’s found another job it’s unlikely she would abandon that toddler to come back and start over with you.
Anonymous
08/11/2019 11:19
Subject: Sad about former nanny
Anonymous wrote:Why can’t you hire the former nanny again?
She’s likely working for someone else now and is happy. Or left nannying
Anonymous
08/11/2019 11:11
Subject: Sad about former nanny
Why can’t you hire the former nanny again?
Anonymous
08/11/2019 11:10
Subject: Sad about former nanny
Well, that sounds kind of like the situation for my two children, except I'm a SAHM haha. My first baby got the mom who took her to classes and concerts and made her purees. My second baby is definitely not getting that 
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Anonymous
08/11/2019 11:00
Subject: Sad about former nanny
Nanny here- Please ask your nanny to read books and make purées. That’s literally her job! She should be doing everything your former nanny did, that’s just basic childcare.
Anonymous
08/11/2019 10:58
Subject: Sad about former nanny
Anonymous wrote:See, that's the thing. People go on about how you can have it all, but the reality is far from it. That is why the debate about WOH or SAH parents is never ending. To have your child raised exactly how you want it, you really need to stay home. Even if you have the best nanny/day care parents are constantly complaining about it. How do you get over comparing? You settle, this is good enough. Just like any SAHP has to settle if she/he have no time for reading the story today, or going to the park, or if they have to drag the younger or the older child to doctors all day long if their siblings is sick.
For some people benefits of working outweigh the negatives of not being the non stop caregiver to their child, maybe money is awesome, maybe without it you would be homeless, etc... For some people option of SAH is great for other benefits, so you settle. We all do, no matter what your daycare and parenting and financial situation is.
+1 The only ppl who can control it all until age 18 are homeschooling SAHPs of only children.
And some of those kids go wild at age 18.
Anonymous
08/11/2019 10:55
Subject: Sad about former nanny
At that age attachment and safety are what matters.
Anonymous
08/11/2019 10:54
Subject: Sad about former nanny
Anonymous wrote:Our former nanny was great. She was with my son from 2 months to three-years and then he started preschool/ daycare. She still sees him every week at her own expense and went on to another job she loves.
I had another baby last spring and we hired a new nanny for the baby. Our new nanny is lovely and loves our baby but she just isn’t as good or educated as our former nanny. She doesn’t read to the baby or talk to her much. She doesn’t seek out story times or free concerts. She doesn’t make purées for her (our former nanny used to make purées loaded with herbs and spices).
Our new nanny is reliable, kind and (again) loves our baby. But I just can’t help thinking that our second child is not getting the stimulation our older child did.
How do I get over this comparison?
Lay out clear expectations for your new nanny? You can actually ask her to make purees. Or you can continue to wonder, rue and worry. Your choice.
Anonymous
08/11/2019 10:54
Subject: Sad about former nanny
See, that's the thing. People go on about how you can have it all, but the reality is far from it. That is why the debate about WOH or SAH parents is never ending. To have your child raised exactly how you want it, you really need to stay home. Even if you have the best nanny/day care parents are constantly complaining about it. How do you get over comparing? You settle, this is good enough. Just like any SAHP has to settle if she/he have no time for reading the story today, or going to the park, or if they have to drag the younger or the older child to doctors all day long if their siblings is sick.
For some people benefits of working outweigh the negatives of not being the non stop caregiver to their child, maybe money is awesome, maybe without it you would be homeless, etc... For some people option of SAH is great for other benefits, so you settle. We all do, no matter what your daycare and parenting and financial situation is.
For some people benefits of working outweigh the negatives of not being the non stop caregiver to their child, maybe money is awesome, maybe without it you would be homeless, etc... For some people option of SAH is great for other benefits, so you settle. We all do, no matter what your daycare and parenting and financial situation is.
Anonymous
08/11/2019 10:53
Subject: Sad about former nanny
You can find concerts and make purées even if you work if those are things you care about.
Anonymous
08/11/2019 10:44
Subject: Sad about former nanny
Our former nanny was great. She was with my son from 2 months to three-years and then he started preschool/ daycare. She still sees him every week at her own expense and went on to another job she loves.
I had another baby last spring and we hired a new nanny for the baby. Our new nanny is lovely and loves our baby but she just isn’t as good or educated as our former nanny. She doesn’t read to the baby or talk to her much. She doesn’t seek out story times or free concerts. She doesn’t make purées for her (our former nanny used to make purées loaded with herbs and spices).
Our new nanny is reliable, kind and (again) loves our baby. But I just can’t help thinking that our second child is not getting the stimulation our older child did.
How do I get over this comparison?
I had another baby last spring and we hired a new nanny for the baby. Our new nanny is lovely and loves our baby but she just isn’t as good or educated as our former nanny. She doesn’t read to the baby or talk to her much. She doesn’t seek out story times or free concerts. She doesn’t make purées for her (our former nanny used to make purées loaded with herbs and spices).
Our new nanny is reliable, kind and (again) loves our baby. But I just can’t help thinking that our second child is not getting the stimulation our older child did.
How do I get over this comparison?