Anonymous wrote:Don’t worry too much about the pee In the face. My two boys only did this once or twice. If yours does just keep the diaper covering the penis the whole time then do a quick swap with fresh diaper. The ob usually does the circ in the hospital day 2. Congrats

Yeah, the peeing is only a tiny baby thing. That stage is over before you know it.

My husband has two older sisters and is one of only two male cousins among more than a dozen in that generation of his family. I think he has always seen women as leaders and equals. For that reason, he's a great husband and a terrific dad to our daughter, who's about to go to college. He's always had many platonic women friends and he mentored two women lawyers who worked for him, one of whom has become a partner and the other is on track. (Interestingly, our daughter is the mirror image -- she has two older brothers, and only one female cousin She also seems very comfortable with men, seeing them as equals, not as inherently more powerful or interesting than women. )

Mazel tov and blessings, OP!

yep, nothing different you need to do to prepare. I understand this feeling as my first was the first boy in our extended family in a long time, but it really is just the same. I would try to be conscientious not to message to your other children that things will be so different because he is a boy, or that it's different and crazy that you're having a boy. He's a baby like all your other babies, and will be a toddler and little kid just like your current kids. The sex will not make a difference for whether your children and cousins can all be close, play, and get along. The pee thing like others said really isn't a problem with many babies, I think it's only happened a couple times with mine and stopped quickly as he got older. You asked what to do to prepare - challenge your perceptions of what is "boy" and "girl" and how each should act, let you little boy express his emotions, cry, etc both as a young and older boy. Of course this is good for all your kids, but just like with your girls you are fighting against specific societal messaging around beauty etc, with your boy you'll have to be perceptive and push against societal messaging around masculinity that can be pretty toxic. Pay attention to what others around you are messaging to both your girls and boys about how they 'should' be acting.

The only thing you need to think about is if you are going to have him circumcised or not.

That's the only difference.

Congrats!

Anonymous wrote:congrats!! It’ll be the same as a girl except have a penis. His interests and temperament will depend on his personality, just as your two girls are no doubt different. Enjoy!

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Anonymous wrote:There won't be a lot of difference until age 16 months or so, when he'll be dazzled by trucks and construction sights and cars.

NP. This perfectly describes both of my girls at 16 months.

Mine too. At 3 her favorite thing is still excavators!

DD, 2.5 is obsessed with any moving thing, especially airplanes. She lives for garbage day, when she can wave to the guys driving the truck.

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Anonymous wrote:There won't be a lot of difference until age 16 months or so, when he'll be dazzled by trucks and construction sights and cars.

NP. This perfectly describes both of my girls at 16 months.

Mine too. At 3 her favorite thing is still excavators!

Don’t worry too much about the pee In the face. My two boys only did this once or twice. If yours does just keep the diaper covering the penis the whole time then do a quick swap with fresh diaper. The ob usually does the circ in the hospital day 2. Congrats

Anonymous wrote:There won't be a lot of difference until age 16 months or so, when he'll be dazzled by trucks and construction sights and cars.

NP. This perfectly describes both of my girls at 16 months.

Op here - thanks! No I wasn’t thinking about “boy personalities” rather how do I change a boy diaper without getting pee in my face. And when do we have to decide about circumcising and whatnot.

There won't be a lot of difference until age 16 months or so, when he'll be dazzled by trucks and construction sights and cars.

Congratulations!
I’m a mom of a boy and a girl. There’s no need to overthink this. As babies, they nurse, pee, poop and sleep pretty much the same. Just watch for the rogue pee in the air with a boy as you change the diaper. . As toddlers, they cuddle, cry, play and learn pretty much the same.

They’re your kids. They each have their own personality. Your daughters don’t have “girl” personalities; they have their own personalities. Stay away from any thinking that ascribes what your kid does “because he’s a boy...”

He will have a penis. Otherwise, who knows. You'll have to take it as it comes, like with all kids. A third girl may have a completely different personality than the first two, or this boy may fit in seamlessly with the his sisters. Who knows.

congrats!! It’ll be the same as a girl except have a penis. His interests and temperament will depend on his personality, just as your two girls are no doubt different. Enjoy!

I am expecting a boy after two girls. I have no idea what to expect! This is the first boy in my family. My sister also has two girls close in age as my two and they are a little band of 4. I helped a lot with my nieces too so I feel like I have been raising little girls for a long time and am a little freaked about a boy!

Also my oldest will be 5 and younger one will be 3 when this one is born. Anything I should think of getting before this one comes? A lot of my stuff is from my oldest niece who is 8. So I need a new car seat. I am going to get a new baby carrier that can go both front facing and backwards. Not sure what else I will need.

We are super excited and were planning on being done with kids no matter what but this was a nice surprise.