Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 11:56     Subject: RSVP question
OP have you never had a birthday party for your kids? I'm surprised by these questions.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 11:56     Subject: RSVP question
Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid just starts at this new daycare in July, so it is our first invitation & I don't know any parents well at all. I assume that it is a whole class invite because I see the same invites in other kids cubbies. The indoor playground is open to public as long as you pay the entrance fee, and the host book a party room to serve cake & pizza something like that. I assume that host pay for the invited kid, but I am not sure if the parent is covered or not. I don't mind paying for myself if needed, and I wonder if I should offer to the host that I would pay for myself when I rsvp back. And, I also wonder does the host assume that 1 invited kid comes with 1 parent or 2 parents?


Most places don't charge for parents.

The host is 100% paying for you and your 3 year old.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 11:54     Subject: RSVP question
Good lord people. If the kid's not on the invite, he's not invited.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 11:53     Subject: RSVP question
Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid just starts at this new daycare in July, so it is our first invitation & I don't know any parents well at all. I assume that it is a whole class invite because I see the same invites in other kids cubbies. The indoor playground is open to public as long as you pay the entrance fee, and the host book a party room to serve cake & pizza something like that. I assume that host pay for the invited kid, but I am not sure if the parent is covered or not. I don't mind paying for myself if needed, and I wonder if I should offer to the host that I would pay for myself when I rsvp back. And, I also wonder does the host assume that 1 invited kid comes with 1 parent or 2 parents?

They are assuming and expecting to pay for parents (assuming parents even cost money). It doesn't matter whether it's 1 parent or 2, different families go either way. They are not expecting the sibling, and even if it's a public spot, you should ask if bringing a sibling is ok and you should offer to pay. No, it's not required, but it's what is considered polite. They will likely say no problem, and may offer to pay for the sibling. But your family wouldn't be there without their party, so you run it by them even though it isn't strictly necessary at a public place.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 11:52     Subject: RSVP question
Your 1 year old is not invited. I guess if you have no one to watch him, then you could bring him and pay for his entry yourself. I would NOT ask the host.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 11:50     Subject: RSVP question
OP here. My kid just starts at this new daycare in July, so it is our first invitation & I don't know any parents well at all. I assume that it is a whole class invite because I see the same invites in other kids cubbies. The indoor playground is open to public as long as you pay the entrance fee, and the host book a party room to serve cake & pizza something like that. I assume that host pay for the invited kid, but I am not sure if the parent is covered or not. I don't mind paying for myself if needed, and I wonder if I should offer to the host that I would pay for myself when I rsvp back. And, I also wonder does the host assume that 1 invited kid comes with 1 parent or 2 parents?
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 11:44     Subject: RSVP question
Anonymous wrote:OP, are you saying that the invitation requires the attendees to pay? Or that anybody above 1 year old is counted as an attendee and the organizer pays for that head?

Just in case you haven't organized a party before, the host needs to get an accurate headcount so they could pick which package they need from the venue, e.g., $400/20 people package or $500/30 people package, or whether they need to pay extra per head above the limit.


I'm sure it's at a play place where babies are counted. I think most places charge for anyone who is crawling.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 11:23     Subject: RSVP question
OP, are you saying that the invitation requires the attendees to pay? Or that anybody above 1 year old is counted as an attendee and the organizer pays for that head?

Just in case you haven't organized a party before, the host needs to get an accurate headcount so they could pick which package they need from the venue, e.g., $400/20 people package or $500/30 people package, or whether they need to pay extra per head above the limit.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 11:03     Subject: RSVP question
Anonymous wrote:I think it's understood with a 3yo's party that the parent will attend. And I agree with PP that I would not assume siblings are invited. I would respond saying that you and the 3yo will attend, and that you will bring your 1yo and pay the entrance fee but you understand the 1yo will not be part of the party.


This is exactly what a couple of parents did when I invited their 3-5-year-olds to my daughter's 4th birthday. I did not expressly include possible siblings in the invitation because there was a cap on the number of guests we had paid for (25?) but since we were at ~21, if they asked ahead of time/offered to pay, I reassured them they could bring the sibling and the expense was covered. There were maybe 3 like this, all very polite. Had a 26th person come and it had been a sibling, they could have still paid for an entrance themselves (at this place), and we had enough cake/etc.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 10:40     Subject: Re:RSVP question
Is this a whole class invite? Have you been to other events?

In our circle, it's normal for families to bring other siblings after asking and offering to pay. Usually the response is "go ahead and don't worry about the extra ticket" or "sure, bring them since we'll have plenty of food (implying you need to pay for your own extra kid)."

In short? Always ask nicely FIRST and don't just show up with extra kid(s) in tow.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 09:51     Subject: RSVP question
I think it's understood with a 3yo's party that the parent will attend. And I agree with PP that I would not assume siblings are invited. I would respond saying that you and the 3yo will attend, and that you will bring your 1yo and pay the entrance fee but you understand the 1yo will not be part of the party.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 09:50     Subject: RSVP question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid gets invited to an indoor party that anyone above 1 year old has to pay, and the invitation says please RSVP through email by certain date. Invitation does not say sibling welcome & also it does not say sibling not allowed. And, I wonder what does that mean? Does sibling allowed? If both I & my kid (3 year old) are planning to attend, do I have to offer in the email saying that I will pay for myself, pay for both of us, or don't write anything about this. And, if I decide to bring my another 1 year old (I pay for his entrance fee), do I have to count him in the RSVP? Do I have to let the host know about it, he won't eat the party food or get a goodie bag if any.


SIbling not mentioned usually means sibling not invited.
If possible, that should be the end of it.
IMO, IF you are close friends AND there is no one to watch the sibling, you can ask if sibling can join and you will offer to pay.
Of course you cannot bring a completely unrelated child.

It's probably best that you politely decline.

I think I misread your question. You mean the 1 year old is the sibling? In that case, ignore my final line.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 09:50     Subject: RSVP question
Your 1 year old is not invited. You should not bring the baby even if you pay.

You and your 3 year old are invited. They 100% expect the 3 year old to attend with a parent!
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 09:47     Subject: RSVP question
Anonymous wrote:My kid gets invited to an indoor party that anyone above 1 year old has to pay, and the invitation says please RSVP through email by certain date. Invitation does not say sibling welcome & also it does not say sibling not allowed. And, I wonder what does that mean? Does sibling allowed? If both I & my kid (3 year old) are planning to attend, do I have to offer in the email saying that I will pay for myself, pay for both of us, or don't write anything about this. And, if I decide to bring my another 1 year old (I pay for his entrance fee), do I have to count him in the RSVP? Do I have to let the host know about it, he won't eat the party food or get a goodie bag if any.


SIbling not mentioned usually means sibling not invited.
If possible, that should be the end of it.
IMO, IF you are close friends AND there is no one to watch the sibling, you can ask if sibling can join and you will offer to pay.
Of course you cannot bring a completely unrelated child.

It's probably best that you politely decline.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 09:44     Subject: RSVP question
My kid gets invited to an indoor party that anyone above 1 year old has to pay, and the invitation says please RSVP through email by certain date. Invitation does not say sibling welcome & also it does not say sibling not allowed. And, I wonder what does that mean? Does sibling allowed? If both I & my kid (3 year old) are planning to attend, do I have to offer in the email saying that I will pay for myself, pay for both of us, or don't write anything about this. And, if I decide to bring my another 1 year old (I pay for his entrance fee), do I have to count him in the RSVP? Do I have to let the host know about it, he won't eat the party food or get a goodie bag if any.