Never. When I am paying for a babysitter I prioritize time with just DH.

Rarely just couples only outing. Maybe once a year.

DH and I go on date night once a month or so by ourselves. We also go to work related dinners a few times per year and obviously don’t take the kids.

However, I love adult only outings. I probably go out 2-3 times per night with my girlfriends. We will go out to dinner or brunch. DH also goes to work related or social outings 3-4x per week.

Point is we do go on adult only outings but not often just double triple date type outings. We get together with friends and their families about once a week. In the summer more.

We have a 3.5 year old and a 1 year old. We do a lot of family get togethers with friends but we go out with friends I would say at least twice a month and sometimes more. Many weeks one of us will have a social night solo while the other stays home.

I cannot imagine the people who say never. That’s crazy to me!

Rarely. I think it's been over a year.

Anonymous wrote:Every week. Once a week DH and I go out just the two of us and once a week we go out with another couple or two.

You need friends whose interests align with yours. So get some new friends, but no need to ditch the old friends. Just tell them "We really need some adult time away from the kids this month; just let us know when you're up for that!"

Maybe you want to do this once a week but they can only afford once a month. Or maybe they don't feel the need for couple-time.

Damn. You go out twice a week without kids? I feel so far from that reality.

Once a week. We make it a priority and schedule it. It’s really important to remember who you are as a person and couple. Most of our friends have kids and we also make it a priority not to spend the evening talking about our kids.

Never, I'm cheap and not paying for a babysitter.

I think we’ve done it like twice since we had kids (2.5 years ago). We either see our friends separately or at kid birthday parties. We have a baby and a toddler and the childcare costs are already quite a lot... a nice night out at a decent restaurant with cocktails plus babysitting costs is just way more than we can afford to do on a regular basis.

Literally never. We are paying so much for daytime childcare, we do not have money for an evening sitter and night out, and on the very rare occasions er have family watching the kids it's a date night. You might need richer friends, or friends with older kids.

Never. Kids are 5 and under.

Single mom here. I might have done that 3-4 times per year tops when my DS was younger. It was too expensive to pay a babysitter (heck, I worked as a babysitter nearly every Saturday night for years when he was little to make extra money). Now that he is older, I might go out every few months but that is still expensive (movies, drinks and dinner, etc). Why don't just you and your DH go out alone together without the kids? The people I babysit for did that nearly every Saturday night.

Never until now, as they’re old enough to stay home by themselves. I have them at home for a limited time, and enjoy their company. They’ve always been calm and we’ve taken them everywhere.

Every week. Once a week DH and I go out just the two of us and once a week we go out with another couple or two.

You need friends whose interests align with yours. So get some new friends, but no need to ditch the old friends. Just tell them "We really need some adult time away from the kids this month; just let us know when you're up for that!"

Maybe you want to do this once a week but they can only afford once a month. Or maybe they don't feel the need for couple-time.

Same situation here. I’ve started asking them to do girls nights instead because that solves the babysitter issue. At this point I just need nights out and don’t really care if they’re couples nights or just with friends.

For some reason whenever we socialize lately, almost all of our friends always suggest that we "get together as families". I am tired of getting together as families. I want to leave my kids at home with a sitter and have a proper night out. But when we suggest this to friends, they either don't want to spend money on a sitter, they don't have a sitter, they prefer to let the kids play, or they don't want to spend money for a night out on the town (they think restaurant eating is only for special occasions or is too expensive). It's also annoying because we inevitably end up hosting another family from time to time and our house ends up wrecked from the kids playing.

I'm not sure if this has to do with the fact that we all have younger kids, because money is tight, because parents need family time on the weekends, or what, but we need time with other adults without kids from time to time.

How often do you and your spouse/partner go out with other couples without kids? How do I tell friends that I don't want to get together as families again (for a while!!) without offending anyone? Or how do we make new friends who are the type to go out without kids every now and then?