Anonymous
08/03/2019 09:15
Subject: Want a fourth but - money
Anonymous wrote:I really want a fourth but my husband is less convinced. He is more focused on the financial aspect of another kid, which I realize is not insignificant. We make around 500k so we could afford another kid but in his eyes, it would detract from the lifestyle we could provide for the three we have right now. With our three, we can afford to fully pay for their educations, do some pretty cool travel, let them go to whatever camps or extracurricular activities they want, etc. etc.
The point is, we don't really have to worry about money right now but we might after having a fourth.
Is that a good reason not to have a child you want?
He doesn't want another and both parents shoukd want another kid! Stupid, stupid, stupid of you to insist. All you will do is create resentment and divorce down the road. Stop being do selfish and thinking of what you want.
Anonymous
08/03/2019 09:13
Subject: Want a fourth but - money
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you are a little hooked on the pregnancy/baby stage. Can you see yourself not in this role anymore? Do you feel like you might end up wanting 5 if you do have 4? I don’t think your husband’s reluctance is money-based. That’s a ton of kids close in age.
+1
Anonymous
08/03/2019 09:12
Subject: Want a fourth but - money
Anonymous wrote:Do a little googling on the environment. Stop being selfish
+1
Anonymous
08/03/2019 09:12
Subject: Want a fourth but - money
Team DH
Anonymous
08/03/2019 09:11
Subject: Want a fourth but - money
Anonymous wrote:Do a little googling on the environment. Stop being selfish
x1000
Anonymous
08/03/2019 09:11
Subject: Want a fourth but - money
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you are a little hooked on the pregnancy/baby stage. Can you see yourself not in this role anymore? Do you feel like you might end up wanting 5 if you do have 4? I don’t think your husband’s reluctance is money-based. That’s a ton of kids close in age.
No I don't want 5.
Families with 4 kids is really common in the suburbs.
Anonymous
08/03/2019 09:10
Subject: Want a fourth but - money
Anonymous wrote:With a 500K HHI you're seriously asking for input on this question?
In my husband's view, we can provide a very nice life to the three we have now. Why rock the boat for a fourth and have less to give each?
Anonymous
08/03/2019 09:07
Subject: Want a fourth but - money
Do a little googling on the environment. Stop being selfish
Anonymous
08/03/2019 09:02
Subject: Re:Want a fourth but - money
Yes, of course, money is a huge consideration in deciding on more children! Your husband is correct. Look at the children you have and ask yourself if denying them (good schools, lessons in something they have a passion for, sports, trips, etc) is in their best interest.
Anonymous
08/03/2019 08:58
Subject: Want a fourth but - money
Sounds like you are a little hooked on the pregnancy/baby stage. Can you see yourself not in this role anymore? Do you feel like you might end up wanting 5 if you do have 4? I don’t think your husband’s reluctance is money-based. That’s a ton of kids close in age.
Anonymous
08/03/2019 08:53
Subject: Want a fourth but - money
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I really want a fourth but my husband is less convinced. He is more focused on the financial aspect of another kid, which I realize is not insignificant. We make around 500k so we could afford another kid but in his eyes, it would detract from the lifestyle we could provide for the three we have right now. With our three, we can afford to fully pay for their educations, do some pretty cool travel, let them go to whatever camps or extracurricular activities they want, etc. etc.
The point is, we don't really have to worry about money right now but we might after having a fourth.
Is that a good reason not to have a child you want?
Yes, it is a good point. Plus, one more kid means less time with your other kids. How old are the other three? What if one or two needs extra support that you don't know about? Enjoy the three you have!
1.5, 3.5, and 5
Anonymous
08/03/2019 08:52
Subject: Want a fourth but - money
Anonymous wrote:With a 500K HHI you're seriously asking for input on this question?
Husband sounds like he doesn't want a fourth that is reason #1
Anonymous
08/03/2019 08:51
Subject: Want a fourth but - money
With a 500K HHI you're seriously asking for input on this question?
Anonymous
08/03/2019 08:51
Subject: Want a fourth but - money
Anonymous wrote:I really want a fourth but my husband is less convinced. He is more focused on the financial aspect of another kid, which I realize is not insignificant. We make around 500k so we could afford another kid but in his eyes, it would detract from the lifestyle we could provide for the three we have right now. With our three, we can afford to fully pay for their educations, do some pretty cool travel, let them go to whatever camps or extracurricular activities they want, etc. etc.
The point is, we don't really have to worry about money right now but we might after having a fourth.
Is that a good reason not to have a child you want?
Yes, it is a good point. Plus, one more kid means less time with your other kids. How old are the other three? What if one or two needs extra support that you don't know about? Enjoy the three you have!
Anonymous
08/03/2019 08:49
Subject: Want a fourth but - money
I really want a fourth but my husband is less convinced. He is more focused on the financial aspect of another kid, which I realize is not insignificant. We make around 500k so we could afford another kid but in his eyes, it would detract from the lifestyle we could provide for the three we have right now. With our three, we can afford to fully pay for their educations, do some pretty cool travel, let them go to whatever camps or extracurricular activities they want, etc. etc.
The point is, we don't really have to worry about money right now but we might after having a fourth.
Is that a good reason not to have a child you want?
The point is, we don't really have to worry about money right now but we might after having a fourth.
Is that a good reason not to have a child you want?