OP here.
I agree. We constantly get 24 hours notice from DH sister inviting us to BDay parties or other kid celebrations.
She gets so offended and hurt if we can't make Saturday morning mimosas (90 minute drive one way) for Larla's birthday party when she tells us about it Friday at 4pm.
MIL got in a huge tizzy about it last weekend how we weren't supporting family. I am just like "lady, we have plans already, its less than 24 hours notice". MIL says "Well not everyone is a planner like you. Why punish Larla?"