I told them nothing. I scheduled monitoring appointments super early in the morning and near work. Why not schedule yours first thing?

Why would they need to know anything? Do you tell them you're having sex and TTC?

I took sick leave and ASSLA as needed. No one at work was the wiser.

I just dropped into conversation that I was going to need extensive dental work over the next few months and didn't that suck.

Anonymous wrote:Why would you tell them anything?

Just take PTO and say it's for a doctor's appointment.

Because some people are stupid and like drama.

Why would you tell them anything?

Just take PTO and say it's for a doctor's appointment.

Anonymous wrote:To the PP above you can absolutely file for FMLA. also if you are retaliated for seeking fertility care there is precedent that this is gender discrimination. Male employees would not have to do IVF appointments egg transfers etc so the EEOC has considered it a gender discrimination issue.

Sure. File away for fmla. Then what will you do when you need to use fmla for a baby?

Anonymous wrote:Just say that you have some doctor's appointments coming up and take sick leave like you normally would for your annual physical or the dentist. Monitoring appts. don't take that long. Or schedule them around lunchtime or late afternoon and just flex your schedule by coming in a bit earlier.

This is what I do.

Just say that you have some doctor's appointments coming up and take sick leave like you normally would for your annual physical or the dentist. Monitoring appts. don't take that long. Or schedule them around lunchtime or late afternoon and just flex your schedule by coming in a bit earlier.

To the PP above you can absolutely file for FMLA. also if you are retaliated for seeking fertility care there is precedent that this is gender discrimination. Male employees would not have to do IVF appointments egg transfers etc so the EEOC has considered it a gender discrimination issue.

Are you kidding? No. Plenty of people have doctors appointments. It’s only for a short period of time. I don’t think you can even get cola for going to monitoring appointments. That’s absurd. Would you try to evoke Fmla for allergy shots?

Enter leave like you normally would. If you can’t take leave for IVF then make sure to realize that pregnancy and having a baby may make it impossible to keep your job. There are just as many appointments when you’re pregnant and they take longer.

How much time would you be out of the office? Are you talking 90 min or three hours? If it’s the latter, can you schedule them for as late in the day or as close to lunch time as possible? Can you tell your boss you have some medical appts and while the scheduling isn’t ideal that you’ll make it as least disruptive as possible?

My monitoring appointments and egg retrieval procedures are in the middle of the afternoon instead of early morning. I don’t want the invasion of privacy by telling my boss and coworkers but I also want to protect my job. should I apply for FMLA?