Anonymous
Post 07/16/2019 00:04     Subject: Wife had Affair with Coworker
Anonymous wrote:No. Your issue is your wife and your marriage and your relationship. Deal with those. Revenge isn’t a good look.
agree revenge is no a good look. Would you honestly not want to know if your spouse was unfaithful?
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2019 00:04     Subject: Wife had Affair with Coworker
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Get a good marriage counselor who can help keep your family together.
. She has agreed to come to therapy with me which is a huge positive. We have our first session next week.

Yay! About how old are your children?
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2019 00:02     Subject: Wife had Affair with Coworker
Anonymous wrote:^^Agree. Your anger is misplaced. Be angry at your wife. Does your wife still want to be married? Do you? I’m really sorry.
. I do want to be married. I love my family and I love my wife.
Anonymous
Post 07/16/2019 00:01     Subject: Wife had Affair with Coworker
Anonymous wrote:Get a good marriage counselor who can help keep your family together.
. She has agreed to come to therapy with me which is a huge positive. We have our first session next week.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 23:59     Subject: Wife had Affair with Coworker
OP here

I get that it may seem spiteful to tell the offending partners spouse about the affair, but I keep coming back to putting myself in the position if I were the unaware spouse, I would want to know.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 23:56     Subject: Wife had Affair with Coworker
Get a good marriage counselor who can help keep your family together.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 23:56     Subject: Wife had Affair with Coworker
Anonymous wrote:Do not connect the OM or his wife, although I can understand the desire to do so. How did you discover the affair, what was your wife’s explanation, and what does she say she wants to do now? Does she still work with the OM?


Phone records and find my phone app. She does still work with him.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 23:53     Subject: Re:Wife had Affair with Coworker
Focus on your wife.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 23:53     Subject: Wife had Affair with Coworker
Anonymous wrote:how was your marriage at the time and how were you leading up to the affair as a husband?[/quote like any marriage we have our ups and downs but I have always been faithful and supportive.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 23:34     Subject: Wife had Affair with Coworker
Do not connect the OM or his wife, although I can understand the desire to do so. How did you discover the affair, what was your wife’s explanation, and what does she say she wants to do now? Does she still work with the OM?
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 23:33     Subject: Wife had Affair with Coworker
Ask yourself how good of a husband and Dad you were? If fabulous then you have the upper hand. How much custody to protect your children from their corrupt wife are you seeking?
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 23:31     Subject: Wife had Affair with Coworker
^^Agree. Your anger is misplaced. Be angry at your wife. Does your wife still want to be married? Do you? I’m really sorry.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 23:30     Subject: Wife had Affair with Coworker
how was your marriage at the time and how were you leading up to the affair as a husband?
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 23:28     Subject: Wife had Affair with Coworker
No. Your issue is your wife and your marriage and your relationship. Deal with those. Revenge isn’t a good look.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 23:09     Subject: Wife had Affair with Coworker
I recently confirmed my wife had an affair with a married coworker that lasted several years. I confronted her with the information and she acknowledged the affair. I am struggling with whether or not I should connect with the other affair partner or even contact his spouse. This just sucks!