The first years with a newborn / baby is really rough on a marriage. I mean really rough. Things will get better with you two in about 4 years, then most forget and have another kid. Repeat cycle. Hang in there.

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, we have a marriage counselor and will see him in about a week

I don't want to break up our family

I intentionally wore my wedding ring out to try to avoid letting things progress too far and tempting myself too much

so you went out after a fight, left your wife and baby at home, intentionally knowing that you were going to flirt with women AND you even considered leaving your wedding ring off?

your marriage is either already dead, dead, dead; or you're just a sleazy cheater by nature.

no, most men do not cope with a fight with their wife when they have a small baby at home by purposefully going out to bars to flirt with women RIGHT up to the edge. you need to own your behavior and see it for what it is.

Huh, how come you got to go out to a bar and hit on women after your fight, whereas your wife had to stay home with your baby?

Any woman can be a bitch, but I have a LOT more questions to ask you about what's going on with your wife and the baby and what you fought about.

And yeah sure - men cheat because they can, because they have more freedom to say go out to the bars when they have a baby at home after a fight.

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, we have a marriage counselor and will see him in about a week

I don't want to break up our family

I intentionally wore my wedding ring out to try to avoid letting things progress too far and tempting myself too much

It sounds like you’re one foot out of the marriage. The reason you didn’t cheat is not because you love your wife or want to save the family, you didn’t cheat because you don’t want to be that “guy”. Do this enough, meaning leaving your wife with the baby after a fight, going to bars and flirting with women who clearly aren’t exhausted from work+house+baby+ issues w/ husband that you’ll become heartless and numb to the whole thing and cheating will sound like a good idea. It already does!

Real men don’t put themselves in this situation. Go for a run, meditate, do whatever but don’t put yourself in a situation where you could end up cheating and blaming your wife for it. Be a men and act like one!

Yeah, maybe so

I'll close this tab so my wife doesn't find it if she looks at my phone

See you guys later

I love my wife but I still want to sleep with every other attractive woman I meet. The ice cold bitch thing is just incentive

Yeah, we have a marriage counselor and will see him in about a week

I don't want to break up our family

I intentionally wore my wedding ring out to try to avoid letting things progress too far and tempting myself too much

Anonymous wrote:One kid under 1 year old

Both parents of your precious child need to do better. Nothing is more important. Nothing. Please start looking for the best possible marriage counselor. Your child deserves two parents under one roof, not a broken home. Please. Good that you posted here. Your baby needs you. So does your wife. She needs to be better than she has been. You too. Blessings to you, OP.

Yeah, I declined her offer to exchange contact info when she had to leave

Haven't found any women as pretty as her since then anyway

I'm not one to cheat, or encourage cheating, but I also think everyone deserves to be with someone who makes them feel appreciated, if only for a short while. Do with that what you will.

One kid under 1 year old

Anonymous wrote:My wife is an ice cold bitch and I am out at a bar without her after our fight

First thing that happened once I entered was that I struck up a conversation with a pretty woman who is just as impressed by my appearance as I am by hers

Not sure I would go through with all the lies and sneakiness that would be required for an ongoing affair, but I absolutely would rather kiss and have sex with this woman than my own wife

I (wisely?) declined to exchange contact info but I'm still thinking about her

Wait, you're out at a bar and your on DCUM posting away?

Start ending the marriage so you can get some.

How old are your children?

My wife is an ice cold bitch and I am out at a bar without her after our fight

First thing that happened once I entered was that I struck up a conversation with a pretty woman who is just as impressed by my appearance as I am by hers

Not sure I would go through with all the lies and sneakiness that would be required for an ongoing affair, but I absolutely would rather kiss and have sex with this woman than my own wife

I (wisely?) declined to exchange contact info but I'm still thinking about her