Anonymous wrote:OP this also happened to me. The doctor assaulted me during a procedure. Not going into the bloody details but it was awful. Through contacts I found out that he was a pervert and drug user (with a big reputation as an RE). I went to therapy fro PTSD and that helped but it took a long time. He’s not in this DCUM area. I’m very sorry this happened to you. It’s awful. Much like a rape but your guard is down because it’s in an office. I hated him for a long time. Sending a hug. Be well and try to get better.

This is horrific. I’m so sorry. Is there any advice how people might protect themselves?

Anonymous wrote:I wasn't physically assaulted. That's awful!

What are the most active ivf forums these days? There were so many more when I first started IVF.

The RESOLVE forums are very active.

OP Are you finding the process of IVF / infertility is giving you PTSD? There are support groups that will help you. Also be sure to find a therapist that understands the traumatic aspects of IVF/ infertility. For example your body doesn’t know the difference between an IVF cycle and a real pregnancy followed by a mc. So your psyche is pretty much traumatized by the thing itself. RE experienced therapists are very helpful but done therapists launch off into other things. Really infertility itself is traumatic.

I found going to a fertility support group to be very helpful. A lot of us were angry and it really helped to be able to vent in a safe space where a lot of people have gone through similar things.

I wasn't physically assaulted. That's awful!

What are the most active ivf forums these days? There were so many more when I first started IVF.

My RE here in DC was very helpful after he found out I wasn’t going to press charges. (I couldn’t! Our system!)

PP here again: Try a rape or assault support group at church or hospital. I thought I was all alone but there were many women there. They are the ones who know your rage and hurt and trauma

OP this also happened to me. The doctor assaulted me during a procedure. Not going into the bloody details but it was awful. Through contacts I found out that he was a pervert and drug user (with a big reputation as an RE). I went to therapy fro PTSD and that helped but it took a long time. He’s not in this DCUM area. I’m very sorry this happened to you. It’s awful. Much like a rape but your guard is down because it’s in an office. I hated him for a long time. Sending a hug. Be well and try to get better.

* The hostile RE was in New York, not affiliated with any DC clinics.

No, I'm not pregnant. This is all coming up as I deal with issues for a new round. I have seen a regular therapist and one that is a specialist for reproductive issues.

No one has anything to say but something along the lines of "that's the worst thing I ever heard." Then ask what I plan to do next. The therapists have been way more respectful about my options. The REs have been either hostile (that one is not in DC) or not really helpful.

I don't want to get into details here because I'll out myself. But everything I'm finding online is mostly about miscarriage, which is not really relevant. I am writing about this but it's not really helping.

I am ANGRY basically.

Are you currently pregnant?

Have you seen a therapist who specializes in IVF and infertility specifically? I found that much more helpful that a regular therapist.

Kate Marosek is really good if you want to try therapy again.

I have found sources that talk about it in terms of traumatic pregnancy complications, so similar issues related to medical treatment as the source.

It's not miscarriage, so it's hard to find related to what has happened. The clinic was/is responsible for it.

I am writing about my ivf experience and realize now that I likely have PTSD from it. Has anyone been treated for that or have resources to share? (I have seen therapists.)